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I know this isn't the right board, and it's not about my dBPDh, but I trust you guys and I need to talk to someone... .

My co-worker is going through some life events where they may or may not be sexual abuse going on in her home. Her husband is being accused, she's denying, etc etc

She was on the phone at work talking to her adopted daughter (the accuser) and I automatically started shaking. I'm tearing up, not crying exactly but water is falling from my face, and I can't quit tapping my foot. I am feeling very nervous/anxious about a situation that doesn't affect me and I don't have to deal with.

I have went through a similar situation a decade ago... .my mother got mad at me, accused my now ex-husband in turn I called the police and long story short he had not done a thing.

I don't know if this some sort of PTSD or what. I do know when I get like this at home... .it severely affects my dBPDh. We have been working on communicating and calming the situation so I don't totally rattle his nerves or keep myself worked up.

I think kids have caught on that they can severely ruin a person's life with false accusations. They have us over the barrel too, because we need to believe them, or at least do lots of digging. I've heard so many stories of false accusations though, and I just wish these kids would realize that it damages the credibility of kids who are telling the truth! I can see why this is extremely triggering to you.

Can you take a short walk to clear your mind? Take a quick break and do some breathing exercises? Hugs to you, and keep posting if it helps.

I suspect there might be something to her story because the grandchild they are raising in my opinion has said things that she shouldn't have knowledge of. But, when asked where she heard this from she says this kid or that kid... .so I don't know.

It's not my place to guess on it, really. In my case, the police came out when I called and talked to my stepdaughter who was 11 at the time. They said with what she said, there would be physical evidence, so we all went to the hospital... .and there was none. Then the story changed over and over... .finally it came out that while my mother lived with me, she would say things to her like "does your dad do this, does your dad do that" while I at work. Now that she's an adult, she believes she was abused but doesn't remember who (she at 6 had accused her mother and her mother's bf. Mom was dead, we called CPS then on bf to follow up)

I still went through over a year of doubt and hell after all of that.

Mods please feel free to delete this. Thank you, Blue for reaching out. It helped me tremendously to have someone answer me <3