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Title: Intro - adult daughter with PPD Post by: mariakay on July 31, 2015, 04:22:44 PM Hello, I have an adult daughter(age 28) whom I believe had BPD. For the last few years, things have gotten better-dare I say almost normal. Lately, she has slipped back into some older patterns of erratic emotional episodes. Although they only last an hour or so, they can sometimes involve self injury. I am looking for ways to respond that do not make things worse and perhaps set some boundaries in our relationship.
Title: Re: Intro - adult daughter with PPD Post by: twojaybirds on July 31, 2015, 05:30:59 PM I too have an adult daughter now 21. Although things seem so much more 'typical" than a few years back, I too can see and can be drawn into her emotional needs.
I use SET in very few words. She prefers texting which makes SET even easier as I can really pick and chose my response. my format is usually like the following: It sounds like you are (upset, angry, hurt, mad) I remember when (he broke up with me, I lost my job, my car broke down). It can be a trying time for sur. Perhaps you (could have prevented this, could fix it by, take a break, ) I am out straight the next three days but let me know how it is going. Then I don't respond to ay more texts. She always move past it and I then don't hear from her for a while. If she is self harming your T in SET could address that. Perhaps something like: If you are self harming I suggest you call a doctor for some help. I can get you a few names and numbers if you want. Learn the language that works for you and it will improve things for all. |