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Title: How to deal with a cheating BPD husband Post by: joann on August 14, 2015, 10:43:10 PM Help! Dealing with a very manipulative and cheating BPD husband.
Title: Re: How to deal with a cheating BPD husband Post by: JQ on August 15, 2015, 01:48:02 PM Help! Dealing with a very manipulative and cheating BPD husband. Joann, I like others hear can empathize with you in your situation. We kinda need a little bit more info to go on. Is he or do you suspect he's BPD? If he is anything like my 2 exBPDgf and their extra bf's it can be frustrating. I was invited to exBPDgf #2 therapist for "couples counseling" to start to work through some items. One of the things I mentioned was is that I wanted an exclusive monogamous relationship and the doc looked right at me and said, "JQ, that might not ever be possible". It's an extreme fear of abandonment real or not. due to behavior learned long before you or i was in the picture. They learned it as a survival technique for whatever was happening in their life as a child. But all of that and more is what makes up someone who has BPD. I would like to suggest all the references here to the right and research everything BPD if that is the case. Stop walking on eggshells, I love you ... .I hate you ... .don't leave me, and The Human Magnet Syndrome are all books you can read from the library are also good places to start if your s/o is actually BPD. JQ Title: Re: How to deal with a cheating BPD husband Post by: HappyNihilist on August 15, 2015, 03:48:27 PM Hi there, joann, and welcome to bpdfamily. There are a lot of people here who understand.
I'm sorry you're dealing with manipulation and infidelity in your marriage. That's tough. It's great that you're reaching out for support. It helps to talk. Could you share with us a little more about your situation? Is your husband diagnosed BPD? How long have the two of you been together? Most importantly, how are you feeling? How are your husband's actions and behavior affecting you? Again, welcome. |