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Last night my subconsious thought it would be nice to torture me with three separate ex related dreams (thou any dream with her is more like a nightmare)

Dream 1: im at some sort of party and my ex is there too. Unlike real life she comes up to ke and starts chatting as if we were just palls. Im fuming mad because she is being all cute but to other people and then talks to me like a friend, im trying to hold it but i know i cant so i just leave the party.

Dream 2. Im a camp counsellor at a summer camp but all the counsellors are people from my old high school, including me ex. People keep coming up to me and asking what happened between ex's name and i because they don't see us around anymore. But in my dream everyone is super insensitive and asks when she is like feet away from me. I always just say, oh we didn't want to get to close before i go to college (which as you all know is not true), then i look over at her with a kinda expression that says "sorry i tried to handle that the best i could".

Dream 3. ( the least obnoxious one) im at a sporting event and people keep coming up to me and saying "oh hey SG! You should go sit next to _____" and then i have to come up with an awkward tell them we arent together.

Yikes, i wasn't even thinking about her when i fell asleep so i guess my subconscious just likes to fck with me. How is everyone else doing? Hopefully no nightmares?

I had dreams about my ex as well. It seems to be one of the ways our brains help process everything we've been through. I used to dream of her often and now, as time has stretched since our rs and since I've seen her it's been hit or miss.

I had 1 dream with my ex, she was telling me about sex with the new guy lol

I dreamt about my ex last night too.

I dreamt I was starting university and selecting a study bedroom from a number available to me. I ended up with one which wasn't my ideal but was okay. When I checked out the furniture, there were lots of books left by the previous occupant who hadn't cleared out properly. Then suddenly, my BPDxbf was sitting in the room. He said he'd brought me a load of pictures of himself to put up. I asked him how on earth he expected me to ever have a relationship with someone else when there were pictures of him all over the place.

I dream about being in school of going back to school or university really often. I assume it's about learning life's lessons. I wonder if the books are to do with being laden down by issues that really belonged to others (my Dad in particular). I've no idea what the pictures are about. Any ideas?

Lifewriter x

I have been dreaming of mine nightly. Sometimes I recall them and sometimes I don't. Sometimes they are good, like we are still together and happy and others are nightmares. My brain is all over the place.  Think about her a lot during the day and apparently can't stop dreaming about her at night either. Good times. 

I've had two memorable dreams about mine lately.

He is a huge aficionado of a certain type of toy, to the point that he has a whole bedroom full of these things.  I had this dream that I had to supply him with his toys while he sat and played with them, and I kept having to bring him toys in tubs and buckets and more tubs and more buckets . . .

I also dreamed that he served me with a PPO punctuated after every line with his signature smiley face.

Well until you mentioned this, I had forgotten mine. But the last two nights Ive dreamt of her and in both of them she's been mad because I've ignored her and haven't come after her.

Most of the others I've had she's been happy to see me and is always kissing me and throwing her arms around me. In them she's always been coming back to me and we are reuniting.

When my BPDexgf was out of town going into a possible recycle I had some really vivid dreams that I can only take to have been warning signs from my subconscious.  At least, they swayed me toward pulling the plug (well, that and some stuff on social media  lol).

1.  In one dream, I found out she was pregnant with the child of one of our coworkers who was married to someone else.  I was like, ":)on't you see how messed up this is?" and she acted like I was being way over-dramatic.

2.  In the second, her whole body was covered in boils.

Since our break up, I've had a couple dreams about her that were neither here nor there--kind of mundane, every day activity dreams. 

It's really interesting to see our subconscious trying to make sense of the world -- for about 2 months straight I was having the most bizarre and messed up dreams. Hyper-realistic or completely over the top David Lynch style.

Suddenly they stopped being crazy. I think the last dream I had was a few weeks ago... .about a FedEx factory lol

I hate to have dreams about her. They are usually heart wrenching dreams of the way we used to be when I could do no wrong and was the light of her life. Very painful to wake up to the reality of quite the opposite. I prefer not to dream and would take medication if I could NOT to dream of her.

Hi,  I was having dreams about mine for about 12 weeks,  we have been N/C now for nearly 8 weeks it's been pretty trying at times,  but I've only just recently stopped having these dreams and have to say even my days are better now they have stopped,  I still think about her and the guys she's been with sense our break up,  I know it's a long road as we were together 6 years BUT I feel I made some progress finally,  there is a good thing you can read about your dreams in the LESSON part of this Page I believe it helped me realise I wasn't going nuts as well,  I feel for you mate,  chin up and try stay positive I know it's not easy

I feel you, either way dreams about our exs suck. having dreams where things are bad is logically hard to deal with, but dreams where things are still good is much worse. You get drug back into the ecstasy of how the relationship was when things were good and then sudenly get thrown back into the cold reality of how horribly the relationship went.

Hey SG,

Three dreams about your ex in one night - yikes indeed.

I was dreaming about her on a nightly basis for the first month after the breakup. However this has completely disappeared in the last week and a half. For the first three weeks after the breakup my dreams were blissful with her, which upon waking up caused me a lot of pain. Then for a week after my dreams were about arguments and breaking up with her. It was as if my mind was trying to make sense of the non-sense that happened and process the break up in its own way.

It's a two step forward one step back process! I think your dreams will be more peaceful in the upcoming nights. Keep us posted!

Yeah thanks bud, i always tell you guys what's going on because frankly my friends will never understand the craziness of BPD. Yeah 3 dreams is rough plus ive always had vivid dreams.