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Title: text fight with BPDgf Post by: anabolicaholic on September 03, 2015, 02:34:33 PM this actually happens quite regularly. I think i'm getting better because when this used to happen I would get anxious, nervous, fearful and have it ruin my entire day. Today I didn't care. there was no emotional response. the exchange went like this
her:have a great day me: thanks her: I love you me: you too? her: you too, you too, you too, you too you too you too. you too you too heruch that hurts me: did you copy and paste all that you too. cuz that's a lot of you too her: you are a jerk me: speaking of that I am watching it right now. the one with steve martin. have you seen it her: why do you insist on hurting me me knock it off her: you made me feel like ___ me:why her: just can't talk about it. it hurts too much me: ok. have a great day her: just so you know i'm going to the bar after work. don't expect me home anytime soon me. have a few for me her: you don't love me like you used to me: my love for you is evident over time by my actions toward you. her: sometimes I like to hear it wish you could see that her: I am not going to give it to you any more. affection its draining me: okay I won't give you anything anymore either. sound good> her: you have no idea how bad you hurt me me: sorry ou feel that way. I don't see it that way. me: hey look today college football starts. I;'m so excited end of communication. I get this all the time. it used to drain me. now that I am learning and detaching it doesn't make me anxious, depressed, nervour or ruin my whole day. th;anks yall Title: Re: text fight with BPDgf Post by: LostGhost on September 03, 2015, 09:10:11 PM this actually happens quite regularly. I think i'm getting better because when this used to happen I would get anxious, nervous, fearful and have it ruin my entire day. Today I didn't care. there was no emotional response. the exchange went like this her:have a great day me: thanks her: I love you me: you too? her: you too, you too, you too, you too you too you too. you too you too heruch that hurts me: did you copy and paste all that you too. cuz that's a lot of you too her: you are a jerk me: speaking of that I am watching it right now. the one with steve martin. have you seen it her: why do you insist on hurting me me knock it off her: you made me feel like me:why her: just can't talk about it. it hurts too much me: ok. have a great day her: just so you know i'm going to the bar after work. don't expect me home anytime soon me. have a few for me her: you don't love me like you used to me: my love for you is evident over time by my actions toward you. her: sometimes I like to hear it wish you could see that her: I am not going to give it to you any more. affection its draining me: okay I won't give you anything anymore either. sound good> her: you have no idea how bad you hurt me me: sorry ou feel that way. I don't see it that way. me: hey look today college football starts. I;'m so excited end of communication. I get this all the time. it used to drain me. now that I am learning and detaching it doesn't make me anxious, depressed, nervour or ruin my whole day. th;anks yall Do you want to continue this relationship with her? If the communication is going like that, it's not going anywhere productive/healthy. Why not end it with her if your heart's not in it? Title: Re: text fight with BPDgf Post by: anabolicaholic on September 04, 2015, 12:27:00 AM I agree. I was pointing out that I can joke now. joking shoes they are structured. also it doesn't make me nervous, anxious, fearful etc. the control is losing its effect. and it shows in the communication. if she can't deal with a little humor then she is structured and infelxible
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