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So I've read a few things about how some BPDs will escape reality into fiction. My ex definitely showed signs of this as she played a lot a specific few video games, was very into roleplaying and was very much into fantasy fiction. Similarly as her symptoms got worse more and more of her relationships were online instead of in person, though that is still somewhat reality.

Is this common for BPDs? Has anyone seen this in their important person?

My former friend BPD is addicted to Facebook.  She would mention all of these "friends," but it was clear, based on comments left on her page, that those people hadn't seen her for a long time.  One actually commented, "When am I going to get to see you again?"   

She is also obsessed with Pokemon and could spend hours playing it. 

A great example of projection is when she told me that I can't deal with reality so I escape by watching fantasy shows and reading fantasy literature.  But when she came over to my house, all she wanted to do was watch TV.   

I went to see a movie with her in March.  She got out her phone and said, "I have a friend who looks just like that actor."  I later found out that the "friend" was her ex-boyfriend, and they don't even communicate anymore.  Up until last week, she was convinced that we were still friends, even though she discarded me back in June. 

Basically, her entire world is a fantasy. 

My ex also lived for Facebook, she would randomly add women - and they would instantly be "friends". She had no real life friends only acquaintances as over time the mask dropped and the real person came out and they left. She also got to know women through dating sites and they became 'friends' - she could not go out and meet people under normal circumstances and situations.

She had no concept of the real world around her, day to day world events, important things like elections she had no idea of, current affairs - that to her was life on Facebook.

She was obsessed with Dr Who and could spend hours watching it.

I always said she lived in la la land through Facebook, and it was a false image of her and real life.

Yeah, mine would tell me that she was "busy" doing things, but her ex-boyfriend told me yesterday that they never did anything.  She just stayed inside all day.  She spent the entire month of May smoking pot and kept telling me she was "busy." 


Mine is so incredibly intelligent, but that really only applies to things like literature and philosophy.  She told me her ex-boyfriend was "oblivious" to the world around him, but that was all projection.  She isn't even registered to vote.  She got all of her "news" from Buzzfeed, and it was always stupid stuff that didn't matter.


Same with mine.  I also like the show, but it isn't my life.  Actually, it's the reason we became friends in the first place.  She walked by my classroom and saw my Doctor Who posters, and the rest is history.   


Yep.  Right after her suicide attempt, she posted a picture of her and her boyfriend looking happy, like nothing had happened.  Today, she changed her profile picture to one of her and her sister, looking happy.  Now, she has all of these new friends from work.  A few weeks ago, she was freaking out because she didn't have a place to live.  As soon as that problem was solved, I was tossed to the side again. 

Rewriting history, overly self-medicating, chameleon-like behaviors... .

The whole 'running away from relationships' is a way to 'escape'.

As is repeatedly denying that many of the issues are coming from within.

My ex is obsessed with things like harry potter, the hunger games and the tv show supernatural. I can understand having a reasonable amount of escapism but with her, it is unhealthy.