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Title: Changes Post by: Smileypants on October 03, 2015, 07:34:21 AM Why is it that when I do get an appology for his bad behavior (verbal abusive & lashing out) it is always followed by a list of reasons why he really shouldn't have to be sorry, putting the blame on everyone and everything else.
I guess it's better than no appology at all, but it really negates the value of an appology. This is relatively new because he is trying to be good because I have become much more serious about what is acceptable and what is not. I have threatened divorce multiple times and have been standing my ground. I actually told him of his diagnosis too. He doesn't believe me (he was diagnosed as a teen, his sister told me of his diagnosis) but since I couldn't tell him how I knew, it didn't go any farther than that. He thinks he has ptsd (his ex ran with his kids 4 years ago). He thought "I was on board with that". He just decided by self diagnosis that was what he had about 2 years ago. He might have it, but it doesn't negate the other previous diagnosis of BPD & bipolar. I have been standing up for the kids. I feel stronger. I am working on taking care of what is really important, me and my kids. I'm not as easy going as I used to be, I do not trust like I used too, I am not as naive as I was. I feel hard and stern, except with my kids. I feel more love for my kids, more focused on their needs, security, health & happiness. I am becoming a stronger advocate for them. I feel my energy is focused where it needs to be. I feel that I am making progress. |