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Title: His "friend" has BPD Post by: shatra on October 03, 2015, 04:57:08 PM I learned that my ex has someone who has BPD as well. My ex told me they are "just friends" but he said she stays overnight with him, so I doubt that. This person is very unstable and has a history of broken relationships, yet I feel jealous. I am wondering ---
-----My ex and I have no kids together, and there is no reason for him to lie to me, yet I think they are more than friends... .why would he lie? ------I am jealous and thinking that maybe things will "work out" with them yet he has a history of broken relations and so does she. I hope this is unrealistic feelings/thoughts on my part... I am trying to remember that feelings do not always equal facts. So just because I fear they will work out doesn't mean they will. -----WHat would the attraction be between 2 people with BPD? The instability in each other? I would think a BPD would at least do a bit better with a more stable person, not a less stable one! Thank you for any feedback or similar experience. Title: Re: His "friend" has BPD Post by: OnceConfused on October 03, 2015, 08:36:40 PM if your x is truly your X then why would you worry about your x? If he finds someone to be with, then should you be happy for him and his happiness?
Title: Re: His "friend" has BPD Post by: shatra on October 03, 2015, 09:04:20 PM No I am definitely not happy. I don't know if he is truly my ex or not. My feelings for him did not just disappear because we are broken up. A mutual friend said my ex does not have "happiness" with this "friend", but either way I naturally feel jealous.
Here's an analogy---if someone gets unjustly fired from a job, they would naturally feel upset. They would most likely not be happy for the boss and want the boss to be happy with a new worker |