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Title: Never wants to see me again but turns up to events I'm at Post by: Corgicuddler95 on October 04, 2015, 12:59:01 PM So if you've seen my recent posts you know my ex gf had a massive go at me last Monday saying she never wants to hear from me again and finds me terrifying etc
So now I'm bloody confused because today she turned up at an event I'm helping to run (basically a Boardgames day) with a friend. It was already mostly over, she had to know I'd be there, she doesn't really like Boardgames and she wasn't friends with most of the others there. I'm trying to continue my life and how can I continue to heal if she keeps turning up. I've even told mutual friends if she wants to turn up to one of the events I co-run she can, just give me notice and I'll try to avoid it if possible. How can she be so ignorant and uncaring of what I need? Or is it malice, is she trying to hurt me? Not even going into the mutual friend who really should have warned me, I'm worried she didn't because my ex has "turned" her against me. Title: Re: Never wants to see me again but turns up to events I'm at Post by: enlighten me on October 04, 2015, 01:10:52 PM Hi Corgi
It could be any number of reasons. She may be hoping that you reach out to her. She may be checking up on you. She may be trying to push you out. Who can tell. Whats important is how you deal with it. Do you get pushed out of the things you enjoy or do you ignore her and get on with your life? Title: Re: Never wants to see me again but turns up to events I'm at Post by: Corgicuddler95 on October 04, 2015, 01:23:43 PM Hi Corgi It could be any number of reasons. She may be hoping that you reach out to her. She may be checking up on you. She may be trying to push you out. Who can tell. Whats important is how you deal with it. Do you get pushed out of the things you enjoy or do you ignore her and get on with your life? I think I got on with it so so. I stayed for half an hour and then left which was ~45 minutes from the end. Right now she makes me feel very uncomfortable and it's hard to relax, especially without alcohol. Made sure I said bye to everyone (except her, never even looked her in the eye) and left in what I felt was a calm fashion. Title: Re: Never wants to see me again but turns up to events I'm at Post by: enlighten me on October 04, 2015, 01:29:04 PM Hi Corgi
I bet that was tough. It does get easier. I have a kid with my exgf and in the beginning had a lot to discuss about our son which she insisted on doing face to face. I would literally hold it together until I got out and into my car and than have a mini panic attack. Now seeing her doesn't faze me. In a way her doing this could actually be a good thing as she will become less triggering for you. EM |