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I am going into week 2 of NC after having NC for almost a month before my BPD almost exhusband decided to email me last week demanding I owe him money to pay his bills in his new home. I havent heard from him since last Monday, however hearing from him last week has put me back into feeling "newly"  dicarded all over again. I also found out over the weekend he has been frequenting places I go to (that he does not), I am told by my thereapist he may be trying to run into me in public, he has a girlfriend so I am confused why he wants contact with me. Has anyone had this experience and any suggestions on how to deal with it are welcome.

Thank you!

I wish I did. Mine suggested the no contact because I think she was tired of me asking how she was coping with this breakup. At the time I didn't put two and two together to realized BPD. I would also be sad and let her know. She had already split me black so at that point didn't care and just wanted to stop hearing about it.

Hi mm1024,


I'm sorry to hear that. I can relate with how confusing that is when our ex partners are in a committed relationship and they are trying to run into to us or checking up on us, BPD is an attachment disorder.

I understand how difficult NC can be, it gets better. Hang in there.

Thank you Mutt. Yes, it is so hard. Therapy and a great support of friends and family has helped me to gain my strength and move forward. I actually saw him from a far almost a month ago at a traffic light, and my body tensed up and I had a feeling of fear. My therapist says it is like PTSD. Luckily he did not see me.

Toddinrochester, I can say that nc is the way to be able to detach from a BPD. I had a very hard time in the beginning too, I can empathize with you on that.

This forum has been a great place for me to read and know that I am not alone. Thank you.