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Title: How to respond? Post by: blackorchid on October 07, 2015, 10:42:45 AM I've just had my first message in a month from my BPD boyfriend. He moved out of our apartment after having a small argument the same day a month ago. Internet is in his name. I'm a foreigner in the country so not entitled to open an account myself
His message clearly just says I'm only contacting about the Internet. I want to cancel it what will you do How do I respond? Waiting for advice as I've handled everything so wrong and with too much emotion the past month. He's given me the ST since he left Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: babyducks on October 07, 2015, 04:37:54 PM hi blackorchid,
I would say respect his message. If some one says all I can talk about today is the Internet bill I would accept that at face value. Still I can see how that would be unsatisfactory for you, so since the door is open I would suggest, and this is a suggestion only, something like this. Hi Boyfriends Name, I plan on doing XYZ with the Internet connection. I understand that you don't want to talk any farther right now. If that should change I would like to hear more from you. I don't feel comfortable with how we left things and hope that we could _______. (you'ld have to fill in the blank here) BlackOrchid. You would need to put it in your words and tweak it to fit what you feel. what do you think? 'ducks Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: blackorchid on October 07, 2015, 04:48:34 PM Hi babyducks. Thank you that sounds perfect. I couldn't think of a way to sign off on it. Thank you
Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: CrazyChuck on October 07, 2015, 04:51:44 PM Tell him there is free internet at Starbucks.
Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: Skip on October 07, 2015, 07:59:08 PM Tell him there is free internet at Starbucks. If he cancels the Internet at your house AND you can't open an account because you are not a citizen - you will be the one going to Starbucks This might not be the best response. *) Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: blackorchid on October 08, 2015, 02:17:09 AM I responded in the manner of babyducks. He read it almost immediately but gave no reply. When I woke up this morning I've once again been blocked... .guess I didn't give the reaction he wanted... .? :check:
Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: Beach_Babe on October 08, 2015, 02:18:19 AM I think babyducks has a very good reply.
Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: babyducks on October 08, 2015, 08:22:18 PM I responded in the manner of babyducks. He read it almost immediately but gave no reply. When I woke up this morning I've once again been blocked... .guess I didn't give the reaction he wanted... .? :check: Hi black orchid, what I have learned is that if I measure myself or my actions against or through someone who has a serious mental disorder I am doing myself a disservice. I have found it is much better to measure myself against myself. Did I do what was right for me? Am I happy that I made the best effort, choice, decision I could? 'ducks Title: Re: How to respond? Post by: blackorchid on October 14, 2015, 07:23:39 AM That makes perfect sense babyducks thank you
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