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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: gowerrm on October 16, 2015, 01:18:13 PM



Title: Being Ignored
Post by: gowerrm on October 16, 2015, 01:18:13 PM
Hi all,

I stumbled upon this board while searching for information that will help me deal with the fact that, for what seems like the millionth time, my SO is punishing me by ignoring me. 

I tried to have a mature conversation with him about how I am feeling  - especially given the fact that he's been lying to me about many, many things and has completely damaged my trust.  

I spoke maybe... .three words and he's been ignoring me ever since. I am the problem. I think I'm perfect.  I am hateful etc.  I never insulted him, never was rude, and make it clear that my goal is to improve our relationship - and that I would like to be able to feel secure and trust and feel valued as he does with me.  Maybe this is selfish?

I just don't know how to handle being ignored anymore.  I reached out to him to see how his day is going.  Nothing... .This will go on for days.  I'm exhausted and sad and I don't know how to deal with this - I don't know how to navigate it.  SOS  


Title: Re: Being Ignored
Post by: Sluggo on October 16, 2015, 02:16:04 PM
My dBPDw like many others I m sure is the queen of the silent treatment.  It used to bother me until a point of tears if it would go on longer than 7 days.  However i have learned to enjoy that time.  It is the time that I get caught up on a book I haven't been reading or catching up on my sleep as I am ridiculed if I don't go to bed the same time as her... .because wife says that I am not spending enough time with her -  which means- all time in day when I am not at work and sometimes even when I am at work.  Wife is able to take naps during the day so I am tired quite a lot. 


Title: Re: Being Ignored
Post by: LilMe on October 16, 2015, 02:18:23 PM
  Welcome gowerrm!

I am so sorry that your partner does this to you!  I know from experience how painful it is.  Here is an article and a link to a workshop on the site about getting the silent treatment.  Hopefully it will help you some!

https://bpdfamily.org/2008/07/silent-treatment-when-your-partner-acts.html

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=68733.0




Title: Re: Being Ignored
Post by: dacoming on October 16, 2015, 05:40:53 PM
I wish my wife would ignore me so I could have some peace!  Raging and raging, breathing down my neck... .All jokes aside, I hate that you have to go through this.  Although my wife always goes on and on with her discussions, I'm still getting ignored because she doesn't take into account or listen to anything I say.  The conversations are all about what she wants and how I need to change to make her happy, not the other way around.