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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: shinyredshoes on October 17, 2015, 11:41:10 PM



Title: Hello
Post by: shinyredshoes on October 17, 2015, 11:41:10 PM
I am trying to get help with a family member (husband) who ignores me when I do things he doesn't like and belittles me any chance he gets. Everyone loves him and thinks very highly of him. He is like a chameleon around others including his family and mine. I need help.


Title: Re: Hello
Post by: EaglesJuju on October 18, 2015, 10:17:55 AM
Hi shinyredshoes,

*welcome*

I am sorry that you are going through this.    It is frustrating and hurtful when someone we love belittles and ignores us. After awhile it really chips away at your self-esteem. I can imagine how frustrating it is that everyone thinks highly of him when he is saying hurtful things.

What types of things does he say when he belittles you?

I am looking forward to reading your response.  :)








Title: Re: Hello
Post by: an0ught on October 19, 2015, 09:30:15 AM
Hi SRS,

it can be very disorienting when someone is behaving on way in public and another in private. Abuse works well in the dark. After being exposed to abuse for a longer while it gets hard to find a way to stand up effectively.

Can you tell us more on how it is happening and how you are handling it so far?

*welcome*,

a0