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Title: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: pookielocks on October 19, 2015, 01:10:16 PM my mom exhibits all 3 of these in full force. is it possible that she isn't just one type? i'm new here by the way.
Title: Re: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: Panda39 on October 19, 2015, 10:07:27 PM Hi Pookielocks,
Welcome to the Family I'm glad you've found us. Yep, your mom could conceivably be all the various types listed in Christine Lawson's book. I would describe my SO's uBPDxw as the same combination. She is primarily Queen... .everyone must do it her way or you will suffer, if being the Queen doesn't get her what she wants then she switches to waif... .Oh poor poor pitiful her and if the Queen or Waif don't get her what she wants she can withdraw and go hermit. Do you think your mom has a primary type? Are there different times or situations where you might see one or more of these types? Again welcome :) Panda39 Title: Re: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: pookielocks on October 26, 2015, 11:46:44 AM thank you for responding. i don't think she has a primary type. she uses different ones to get different things.
Title: Re: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: Rock Chick on January 20, 2016, 02:58:51 AM My bf's mother is one too that can be waif, queen and all types described in Christine Lawson's book. So yes I think its possible and agree with other ppl who have commented.
Title: Re: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: maddnessreturns on January 20, 2016, 09:37:53 AM My mom can be all of those in that book. It's like I never know what I'm going to get it changes so often. It was terrifying as a kid growing up because I never knew what I was going to get. While one day X was good the next day it wouldn't be.
Title: Re: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: busybee1116 on January 20, 2016, 06:33:20 PM Mine flips between waif and queen. It's an interesting coin flip to see her go from completely helpless/dependent to raging full fierce omnipotent. And unpredictable. Hermit occasionally, she likes to hoard and be left alone with her stuff, unbothered, but I think she gets lonely after awhile even though things are easier for her than people. Title: Re: Can you have a waif/hermit/queen uBPDm? Post by: unicorn2014 on January 20, 2016, 11:51:02 PM and welcome
I've seen all 4 traits in my mom, so I'm quite sure its possible . Have you read the book Understanding The Borderline Mother? |