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I am a single mom of three girls going through a divorce believe it or not my second divorce. I was only married for a little over six months the second time. Seems unfortunately I'm attracted to narcissists. I have so much going on I can't take this... .As I said going through divorce, having back surgery in 2 weeks.

Take a few breaths.  Don't look at the looming mountain before you, that can be too daunting, just concentrate on things one or two steps at a time.

First, take care of you.  As they say on every airplane flight, "In the event of an emergency, put on your own oxygen mask before helping others."

Next, do you have solid legal advice from experienced local family law attorney(s) on the legal issues, upsides and downsides of an impending divorce?  What do you have to be careful NOT to do?  What do you have to be SURE to do?

The good news (okay, less bad news) is that if a short marriage ends then generally it is less complicated to unwind it.  Children are the largest issue and since probably you don't share children with your spouse then custody and parenting are not concerns.

After children, then it probably becomes a matter of financial issues, separating our individual assets from the marital assets and then deciding how to split the marital assets.  The difficulty with our cases is that the other person can be very acting-out oppositional and obstructive.  So if you can't reach a reasonable settlement, then the court will have to decide.

That's it in a nutshell.  Sure, it not nearly that simple, but if you can break the huge worries into smaller ones then they're easier (less difficult) to address and resolve.

That's not all you can/should do.  As you noted, this is #2 to a pwNPD.  Self examination, even counseling, would be helpful so you can avoid repeating history yet again in future relationships.  But those take time - recovery is a process and not an event - and some things such as your health and the failed marriage take priority right now.