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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Mzbedilia on October 26, 2015, 12:01:53 PM



Title: How long?
Post by: Mzbedilia on October 26, 2015, 12:01:53 PM
I have been in a relationship with my BPD partner for almost 4 years. Her BPD was confirmed by our couples counselor about two months ago and things make so much more sense. I had made great strides in not reacting to her chaos which has seemingly made her angrier and more unbalanced than ever. I got triggered last week by her stuff. (We have three kids one hers from a previous marriage and two mine from a previous marriage. All boys 8, 12,&15 respectively). But she's been in her funk now for a week straight and I'm struggling so hard to be supportive. The lies the threats the horrific accusations all thrown at me it's to much. I'm

At a loss. I just want her to leave and I feel like an ass for wanting that but I can't

Win I can't support her until she owns she has this disorder which she hasn't. I just want to

Cry but I have to stay strong and keep moving. What's the longest an episode will last?


Title: Re: How long?
Post by: joshbjoshb on October 26, 2015, 12:13:14 PM
I am so sorry that you feel this way. Yes, being with a BPD can be very difficult at times.

You say that you stopped reacting to her rages, but it seems that you only stopped reacting an the outside, but deep inside you are still truly hurting.

Is that the case?