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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Should I stay or... on October 26, 2015, 05:58:56 PM



Title: I Know I need to move on but...
Post by: Should I stay or... on October 26, 2015, 05:58:56 PM
 ... .I'm still in mourning, it's been over 6 months since we last spoke. I awake and fall asleep thinking of her; I even scream her name out loud as I drive passed some of our old haunts hoping she can possibly feel the cosmic vibration of my voice... .and think of me too.

I know I need to move on and have taken several positive steps to do so, but tell me, has anyone ever felt this way? I almost don't want the next relationship to work out, because if it does, I know the memories and possibilities' of going back to her will never be. I'm in my own push pull.


Title: Re: I Know I need to move on but...
Post by: C.Stein on October 26, 2015, 06:14:36 PM
I understand all too well how you are feeling.


Title: Re: I Know I need to move on but...
Post by: LostGhost on October 26, 2015, 09:23:41 PM
Some days I'm doing ok. But some days I feel just like you  Only been 2 1/2 months for me. One step forward every day, it's the only way. We have to keep moving forward. I think we get stuck because we'd rather deal with the known pain of being with them, than the unknown future before us.


Title: Re: I Know I need to move on but...
Post by: hopealways on October 26, 2015, 09:58:41 PM
Trust the process of NC, time and understanding of the disorder is what will help you heal.