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Title: Ex married replacement Post by: disorderedsociety on October 29, 2015, 01:25:50 AM I left a girl diagnosed with BPD (and medicated) about 9 months ago after living together for 3 years. She started dating a friend of mine a week after I dumped her for good.
She got pregnant a month into their new relationship and now she's changed her last name on Facebook to his last name. She wanted me to marry her and have her second child with her before I left. Now she's done the exact same thing with this guy. Pretty messed up stuff. Just wanted to share. Title: Re: Ex married replacement Post by: Fr4nz on October 29, 2015, 05:07:41 AM I left a girl diagnosed with BPD (and medicated) about 9 months ago after living together for 3 years. She started dating a friend of mine a week after I dumped her for good. She got pregnant a month into their new relationship and now she's changed her last name on Facebook to his last name. She wanted me to marry her and have her second child with her before I left. Now she's done the exact same thing with this guy. Pretty messed up stuff. Just wanted to share. BPDs "fusional" fantasies at their best... .she even changed her last name: wow! Don't take it as she did something personal against you OR you have less value than your replacement; they replay these fantasies in every relationship they have. Title: Re: Ex married replacement Post by: stacma04 on October 29, 2015, 05:10:36 AM Wow, it seems like they are all cut from the same cloth. Mine exbf did the same thing almost, after us looking at engagement rings and talking about marriage, he broke up with me and went back to the OW he was seeing while him and I were in NC for several months. Got engaged to be married one month after our break up, don't know if there married because I haven't looked but I suspect that's coming soon. I've removed myself from the situation
Title: Re: Ex married replacement Post by: Mutt on October 30, 2015, 12:43:41 AM She wanted me to marry her and have her second child with her before I left. Now she's done the exact same thing with this guy. Pretty messed up stuff. Hi disorderedsociety, A criterion for BPD is unstable, chaotic inter-personal relationships. A pwBPD have a narrative of broken romantic relationships. Your ex has a permanent attachment with the children and fathers. Title: Re: Ex married replacement Post by: ScotisGone74 on October 30, 2015, 02:53:49 AM Thank your lucky stars. There was a reason you left, it was that little smart person inside of you telling you something is not right. Three years is a good amount of time to spend in the struggle and it will take you some significant amount of work to untangle yourself and mind from it, good luck on your journey.
Title: Re: Ex married replacement Post by: disorderedsociety on October 30, 2015, 06:06:06 PM Thank you all. The journey's been tough but I've met a healthy someone with an 8 year old son who is the most well-adjusted, polite and healthy child I've ever met. It speaks numbers about my new partner's interpersonal skills despite my extreme caution. Its interesting when you meet someone who went through very similar things and can lovingly call you on your co-dependent habits so as to avoid unhealthy outcomes like enmeshment. I even get some of the experience of interacting with a child which I missed about my ex (not her, the child she had :))
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