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Title: spiraling down again Post by: Didntdeservethat on November 08, 2015, 05:32:40 PM Well the weekend has been another rollercoaster, after 3yrs with a diagnosed bp, scitzophenic with developing BPD and npd behaviour, we broke up 10 weeks ago went nc after i closed off our joint bank account. Out of the blue 3am sat night i received a series of nasty texts accusing me of stalking her and not moving on. Intially these texts help me see how unwell she is which helped as she has left me in a mess isolated from friends and family doubting myself and questioning my own integrity. I am slowly trying to find myself which is strange as prerelationship i have been very successful independent and strong now i am lost.
Why has destroyed me and continues to destroy any fond memories of her, she is telling people horrific lies about me and our relationship. What will she likely do. Do you think one day she may realise she was wrong and apologise. Title: Re: spiraling down again Post by: C.Stein on November 08, 2015, 08:08:18 PM Do you think one day she may realise she was wrong and apologise. That would be nice. I know I would love to hear some remorse and sincere apologies, but I don't think they will be forthcoming ever. Perhaps it is best not to wait for something that may never happen. Title: Re: spiraling down again Post by: Mutt on November 08, 2015, 08:15:30 PM Hi Didntdeservethat,
My ex wife did something similar, she had a tantrum after I had closed our joint accounts, her fear of aloneness was triggered. What she says about the relationship is something that I would advise to not worry about. That's on her. She may confuse friends and family after all of this has passed and she says good things about you. Did you reply to her nasty texts? Title: Re: spiraling down again Post by: joeramabeme on November 08, 2015, 09:41:32 PM Why has destroyed me and continues to destroy any fond memories of her, she is telling people horrific lies about me and our relationship. What will she likely do. Do you think one day she may realise she was wrong and apologise. Man I can relate, going through a divorce and she just wont stop pushing the boundaries as far as she can which is forcing legal action and thereby destroying my fond memories. Regarding your question "do you think she will realize . . . "; it is part of the nature of the disorder to make emotionally driven decisions. How that eventually unfolds is impossible for them or us to know. I am swallowing real hard right now moving forward with legal action. I know she is ripped angry and this makes me want to stop proceeding in the name of salvaging memories, but I cannot make decisions which are healthy for me based on what I hope will not rub her the wrong way. It hurts like hell and I sometimes fantasize that 3-4 years down the road she will understand (and of course be all cured and want to reconnect with me :)) but the reality is, as of this moment I doubt she will ever realize anything. Besides, why would I have this hope? Like most of her feelings, it is not based in reality Title: Re: spiraling down again Post by: Didntdeservethat on November 08, 2015, 11:23:45 PM Mutt, no i have not responded to any of her texts maintaining week 5 nc. I just don't understand why she has split so viciously. She created the event which caused our split up, had me arrested for an event that never happened. However she has made it so much worse by inflating her story to her friends about being abused controlled and even raped by me that i don't even know her anymore. I feel in love with a very caring considered person not this person bent on destroying me.
What do you think would be going through her head, a friend said she more than likely is trying to trigger a response and thus a dialogue. I dont know what to do anymore. |