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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: twojaybirds on November 11, 2015, 09:51:23 PM



Title: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: twojaybirds on November 11, 2015, 09:51:23 PM
I am so proud of my dd21.   Her life has been on a winding road while our relationship has improved.

One of the things I  :thought: noted with her/us is "less is more." 

She cannot live with me that is horrible for us both.

She has to keep busy working a full time job and going to school full time or things go more  'haywire' in her life.  It is almost like the hectic schedule satisfies her need for chaos, or at least most of it.

She pays for school herself and when I offer to help with things she becomes offended. SO I don't offer any more, just am always looking for the positive with her, carful never to say anything that could be taken as judgment.

While she lives about 15 minutes away we see each other about once every 2 months.  And always after a visit she tries to suck me into some catastrophe via phone/text.  I have learned to ignore all those messages and within a week they stop. It is as if she never sent them.

I send a supportive short text about once a week  "Hey lady, just thinking of you and hoping all is going well"  or something that easy which seems to be all she wants (for now)

She just graduated with a medical assistant certificate and landed an awesome job. (an acceptance to start nursing school in the spring)  Now with insurance she has gotten her glasses, gone for a physical, made a dentist appointment and even got a referral for a psych and is back on her meds.  She even showed me the filled scrip.

2 years ago I never thought I would see this as she was living on the streets, went NC, dropped out of high school, looked horrible and could not carry on any kind of 'sane' conversation.

I am so grateful for all the support here that has brought me thus far.

There is hope for all!


Title: Re: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: lbjnltx on November 12, 2015, 06:42:07 AM
What great news twojay!

It was a long road getting to where she is now and the wait must have been excruciating for you at times.

How did you manage to let her find her own way without losing yours?

Homelessness is one of parents greatest fears for our adult children.

What do you believe was the greatest factor in her turning herself around?

 I'm so happy to hear this news   and to hear from you!  as you and I came here around the same time and our kids have grown up in this parallel universe while we supported each other and shared our concerns and love for them.

lbjnltx


Title: Re: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: mggt on November 12, 2015, 09:23:53 AM
AHHHH so happy for yo :)u and your daughter


Title: Re: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: mggt on November 12, 2015, 09:26:39 AM
I meant  |iiii :) :) :) :) :)  


Title: Re: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: raytamtay3 on November 12, 2015, 10:15:45 AM
Yeah! HOPE!  Congratulations!


Title: Re: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: js friend on November 15, 2015, 01:17:14 AM
This is brought a smile to my face... .such wonderful news! |iiii


Title: Re: my dd is back on meds and other great news
Post by: AVR1962 on November 15, 2015, 09:43:02 AM
That's wonderful!