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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Wu-tang on November 12, 2015, 08:03:16 AM



Title: Is it possible to split ex-partners white after leaving them?
Post by: Wu-tang on November 12, 2015, 08:03:16 AM
My uBPDexgf used to talk about her ex-fiancee all the time for the year we were together. She was with him fr 5.5 years and cheated on him for the last year and a half with a married man.

She used to cry and get depressed saying how she felt guilty (he never knew she cheated - according to her) and how she knows he will never trust girls because she left him.

There was a bit of splitting black with him being emotionally cold and screaming at her but she would then say things like "He was a good guy" and "I want him to be happy"

She's intelligent and highly manipulative so I wonder if this was all mind games?


Title: Re: Is it possible to split ex-partners white after leaving them?
Post by: Schermarhorn on November 12, 2015, 08:38:54 AM
Yes, I believe it's possible.

I've had it happen to me when she split her best friend black.


Title: Re: Is it possible to split ex-partners white after leaving them?
Post by: enlighten me on November 12, 2015, 09:03:58 AM
I think that we nearly all end up being split white again. We may never know it though.

Part of the reason we are painted black is that we can become a trigger. When we are with them we are a constant reminder to them for whatever it is that triggers them. When we split up and move on we remove that trigger. Over time they forget about the trigger as a lot of the times it was more emotional than fact based. With the trigger gone then they can see the good points.