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Hi all,  well here's the summary. Semi retired financially secure i met this beautiful amazing girl who appeared to be deep caring and supportive i fel madly in love with her. Her mirroring dragged me into an almost obsessive codependent situation. I chose to ignore numerous red flag events. Yr 2 things became so irradic she confessed about her low grade BP, i asked to see her phyc who told me her lifestyle 20yr party girl socialite was threatening her mental wellbeing, she was in full denial and argued with her doctor (Big redflag) by now i was committed to help. I said i would support her if she kept attending her doctor and focused on lifestyle and personal development. On reflection this is when the arguments started always based on a premise of me being unfaithful. Now i have a very strong morale code so being unfaithful was a nonsense to me. Yrs 3 and the fighting was increasing almost daily arguments about lack of growth and interest in anything but the champagne lifestye i can provide. At this stage we'd been seeing a T together and he raised privatly to me that she was developing BPD and NPD. I asked if we could work as a team with her phyc of from NZ, she was not happy about this but i insisted. On a conference call her phyc revealed that she was also showing signs of scitzophenia which her mother suffered from. About this time things escalated and after an argument she called the police and tried to claim abuse, no evidence it was disguarded, she tried this a second time again no evidence.  The third time after an argument and i had gone for a walk she destroyed my home brused herself and called the police this time having me charged with a DVO.

Enough was enough i asked her to leave and she went back to her home country. Speaking to me daily, angrily she pleaded for financial support whilst she attended her doctor in order to get better. Around week 6 her doctor called me to square up a bill. It was obvious the 80k she had taken was being spent on partying. I made some calls and people had told me she was out partying telling everyone about how she had managed to escape and abusive situation where she was being controled abused and even raped by me. I decided to close our bank and account. She called that day and said it was over obviously after she couldn't access the account. We have been NC since then 5weeks. On saturday night she sent a series of drunken abusive texts stating how could i have destroyed her life, im a fraud a disgrace and she and everyone hates mate. Last night the smear campaign is elevating, on my facebook i had a popup message from an annoymous source saying they new i was coming to her country this weekend did she know and that they would be watching. This has also escalated as they have emailed three collegues stating that i am a fraud and they have been warned about me. They also emailed a female friend and told her she should be careful about me.

This has completely floored me again its obviously her as the source however she is not very technical so obviously getting support from someone else. I don't know what to do, should  i respond or just lay low.

Advice from someone whos experienced this level of smear campaign would be helpful. I would've thought things would be dying down by now we've been apart of 12 weeks NC for 5. My friend mentioned that she may have had relationships but cant find one as lucrative as ours and may be trying to create a reaction and open a dialogue but why would they reach by way of something so mean and cruel.

Can you have your lawyer send a letter of cease and desist to her to stop the online smear campaign. You can google a case in Cincinnati OH where this woman was found guilty of telecommunication harassment.

www.cincinnati.com/story/money/2015/11/09/no-verdict-yet-indian-hill-real-estate-case/75445670/

I would take a photo of the screen shot of these smear notices for future reference.

You can also call the 3 colleagues who received the smear letter to clarify things with them. If they are your friends they will understand and disregard the smear campaign.

Lastly, after savings all the nasty texts and emails. Don't respond to her communications, and don't even read them.  Cut the cord completely, After a while of seeing no response, she hopefully will go away.

I am sure the letter of your attorney about the cease and desist is a strong indication from you that you will take severe actions.

Just cut the cord with her COMPLETELY.

Your situation is more difficult bc she is in another country. I'm experiencing the same thing. When they do these things... .There are laws to protect you. It is stalking and harassment.

I filed and was granted an emergency PO... .It's just a piece of paper until he is served, but enough is enough! Also one of the moderators suggested looking at the legal boards on here.

Thank you for your responses, now im going to sound crazy but both the messages to me and emails to others have disappeared, they came from an email address anonymous.com which when i do some googling appears to be a hackers site. The os part is difficult as i cant provide much eveidence other than some late night drunken text abuse. My lawyers are aware but to lodge a PO i would need to show just cause. I dont know what to do all i know is she wont back down