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Relationship with ex BPD, npd, bp, scitzophenic ended 13weeks ago NC for 5 weeks but she resurfaced last weekend with a late night text x 8 abusive how could you texts all with no response from me. In the last 24hrs there was an anonymous message on my fb page threatening me. Since then friends have been receiving messages ranging from "Hes a fraud and a liar and they should all be careful" to messages to my family members saying that id abused controled and even raped my ex girlfriend and that people need to know that i am a dangerous person". I called my lawyers who've asked for copies of emails and messages however everything has disappeared. Now this is very spooky as i know she does not have the technical capability to make this happen so obviously she has help. When will this never stop and why has she reattacked me so viciously. Ive not had contact in 5weeks.

I know feel uncomfortable facing friends and family, it wasn't bad enough that she stripped my confidence and dignity now she's attacking my reputation.

Your friends and family know you. Don't forget that. We can't control what other people think of us however those who know you know this isn't your history. Don't hide from your friends and family, they are your support. 

I'm sorry this is scary and painful, the same thing happened to me with the verbal attacks via text and phone calls from her friends. Since you are 2000 miles away there's little chance you are in any physical danger. Take a deep breath. This surge in drama could have a lot to do with the fact you are 2000 miles away.

When was the last time you changed your email password? I don't know how someone could get into your phone to delete texts however if texts have disappeared... .password protect it. Changing passwords will keep anyone who knows your password from deleting things. If there are further emails you will be able to save them from that point forward. As hard as it is, it's good you are not responding.