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Miss Piggy is a spot on parody of my ex. The narcissism was so extreme he was practically a caricature.

Anyone else's ex display behavior that was "over the top"?

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It's been a year Beach.  Time to start letting it go and focusing on you and your future yet?

Well 7 months to be exact, and I see nothing wrong with a little humor. He was a caricature, looking back and that was my point. The narcissism was so extreme. The qualities I miss do not exist. It took a long time for me to realize that. I have been doing better, even if progress is slow. Sorry, I just see no reason to apologize. Disorder or not, maybe some people really are just reprehensible.

Are you angry?  That's to be expected.  It's a stage of grieving.

Rather than hosting a name calling contest, why not tell us what you are really angry about.  Rank order the list.  Maybe put in three subcategories - abuse, undesirables, annoyances (or whatever makes sense).  If you are daring, list what you liked too.

Get it out.  Break it down.  Be direct.

It really helps to inventory this stuff.

Don't listen to the apologists... .most of them are pathetic humans.  It's good to let the anger go and find a place of indifference. Just because you don't fit into some peoples agendas doesn't mean your black and white thinking or projecting... .which seems to be the go to line for when people disagree around here.

Hi thirdeye,

The anger is part of grieving - there is no reason to stiffle it.

The comments are about co-rumination. Simply put, there are healthy support group activities and not so healthy ones. Co-rumination is the latter - especially if its our primary focus.

We want to channel the anger in a healthy way or at least not get into unhealthy territory.

Here is what the American Psychological Association says about it... .

Spending too much time talking about problems can actually make things worse.

Social isolation increases your risk of depression. But according to psychologist Amanda Rose, PhD, so can the wrong kind of friendships.

In her research, Rose has found that friendships that are overly focused on discussing problems [immersing ourselves in negativity] may actually increase depression and other problems in girls... .

They found that co-rumination made girls feel closer to their friends. However, they also found that co-rumination increased depression and anxiety. That in turn led to more co-rumination.

Girls may see discussing problems as a way to give and seek support, says Rose. Instead, the conversations seem to make them more depressed. Those feelings of depression and anxiety then led to more co-rumination.

It makes sense to express feelings, talk about it. Dissect it. Work through it.

"Lets all lists how our exes sucked, is injury immersion, is not a good idea.

And, calling members names, is also on that list of "not too healthy".

We're a family here. We help each other.