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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: guy4caligirl on November 18, 2015, 07:13:31 AM



Title: 4 those who are in pain and suffering due 2 B/U. Read these encouraging words
Post by: guy4caligirl on November 18, 2015, 07:13:31 AM
Hi, everyone ,

Last year at this time approaching the holiday season,  I was devastated with  the lost of our mutual break up in July 2014 So at that time I was 4 months out and MAN did it hurt ?

I basically  :)id everything in the book to win  her back , is it because because I was use to her presence ?

I stayed in knowing it was extremely toxic  and thought I loved her perhaps ,and she would change ? Could that be the case after a relationship for 5 years ?

I am writing this without any feeling of despair, a tiny part of me wants to recycle especially after she broke my NC Twice this past month and I remained in NC , also I am not "digging any footing for her return ".

I am now after a year INDIFFRENT ,

The good news  IS you WILL too !

A day will come and the  freedom will also come, depending if you have children or not and your own ability to finally let go .

Good luck to all of us . Wars never lasted  for ever , your suffering will end so your war ,only when you're ready ... .keep going  you're blessed to be part of this community The PDD family.


Title: Re: 4 those who are in pain and suffering due 2 B/U. Read these encouraging words
Post by: itgirl on November 18, 2015, 07:23:45 AM
my war is almost ending.  There is no going back.  I do however still dream about her almost every night.  wish that would go away.


Title: Re: 4 those who are in pain and suffering due 2 B/U. Read these encouraging words
Post by: hopealways on November 18, 2015, 10:49:53 AM
Congratulations! It's great to hear people coming back and posting positive results of NC.