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Title: Sources of Comfort? Post by: SummerStorm on November 18, 2015, 07:38:27 PM My former friend BPD always seems to go back to Pokemon after a relationship ends. I'm wondering if this has basically become a source of comfort for her. It's one of the few things that she actually likes and knows she likes. It was probably something that gave her comfort during the years when she was sexually abused. Perhaps she feels like herself when she plays Pokemon games or talks about it.
Also, it's "cute" and "fun" and not at all serious, so she asks new boyfriends to buy her Pokemon things at the start of their relationship. I mentioned this to a friend, and her reply was, "It sounds like she just wants to have a high school relationship." Pokemon gifts are impersonal, have no connection to intimacy, etc. Any ideas on this? Did your pwBPD have like one thing that he or she sort of clung to, possibly because it was a source of comfort? Title: Re: Sources of Comfort? Post by: Teereese on November 18, 2015, 10:08:33 PM My stbxh mainly used alcohol and drugs as sources of comfort and escape.
He never truly had any of his own hobbies or interests. He mirrored whomever he spent time with but never really enjoyed the hobbies or interests. He did many different activities/hobbies over the years ... .fishing, working on cars, painting, hiking, home improvement. etc. He generally would lose interest as he painted the friend or family member black. Any differing opinion or disagreement would cause the friendship or relationship to come to a quick end. |