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Title: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: jTrue426 on November 26, 2015, 11:21:42 AM I've had no contact for about a week. Would a simple Happy Thanksgiving text be inappropriate?
Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: hopealways on November 26, 2015, 02:11:21 PM It's not that it's inappropriate, but maintaining NC is the best way to start healing.
Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: guy4caligirl on November 26, 2015, 02:17:46 PM Take it this way , you give her more power to reject you .
Are you sure you need that in your life now ? I will stick with NC and let her wonder and perhaps she will , but don't count on it much , happy thanks giving to you ! Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: Joem678 on November 26, 2015, 02:18:10 PM When you communicate in any way during NC, you are hitting the reset button.
Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: Rameses on November 27, 2015, 10:48:34 PM When you communicate in any way during NC, you are hitting the reset button. Great way to put it! And in my experience it gets tougher after each reset. Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: jTrue426 on November 28, 2015, 07:45:01 AM I buckled. The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course.
Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: butterfly15 on November 28, 2015, 09:32:35 AM I buckled. The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course. I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. How do you feel that you did not get a response back? Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: jTrue426 on November 28, 2015, 09:37:11 AM I buckled. The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course. I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. How do you feel that you did not get a response back? I guess I feel exactly how I thought I would: The same but a little worse, due to one more non-response. Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: C.Stein on November 28, 2015, 10:09:52 AM I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. I wanted to as well, but she asked me to not text/call anymore and I have to respect her request. Wouldn't matter either way, she wouldn't respond anyhow ... .I have been deleted. Title: Re: Struggling not to contact on the holiday Post by: butterfly15 on November 28, 2015, 10:12:42 AM I buckled. The holiday was too much (or it was just me). I texted my ex - SO. No response from her of course. I wanted to do the same. However, I couldn't bare not getting a response. As I know I wouldn't so I didn't contact him. How do you feel that you did not get a response back? I guess I feel exactly how I thought I would: The same but a little worse, due to one more non-response. I feel the struggle I face daily with my choice to not have contact is real. However, I know that he is doing whatever. I don't know if pwBPD forget about us or not but I know him enough to know that he would have ignored me. It would have hurt. It hurt not to contact him too. |