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Title: Facebook. To block or not to block a BPD and npd? Post by: cheaptrick on November 29, 2015, 02:29:48 PM Long story short. I finally got out of an abusive relationship with a disordered woman who was admittedly a extreme NPD, and had BPD traits as well, apart from having no sex at all because she would use her religious convictions as the reason, but that isn't an issue. She is 51 and dresses like a 16 year old and acts that way too. Won't say hello to me on the street and we have mutual friends. I was told that blocking people on facebook shows that they are weak. I just hate seeing her NPD show up on friends post, but even if I did block her, her business page pops up all the time and you can't block that. So, recommendations on how to go about getting them out of sight out of mind? I have a busiNess page on Facebook too, so dumping FB isnt an option. I don't want friend so think I am petty for blocking her but I cringe everyone her name or face pops up in their feeds and her business page pops up due to Facebook ads. I know BPD and NPD lack empathy and she made scenes at my best friends memorial, so that was the final straw after dissing me at my mother's funeral too. I expected an apology and none came. She now post to friends that I abandoned her. Yes I did. Damn right!
Title: Re: Facebook. To block or not to block a BPD and npd? Post by: enlighten me on November 29, 2015, 02:35:49 PM I hardly use fb now. I check it in the morning for about five minutes. My ex wife I blocked and it is good not to see her pop up. My exgf isn't blocked and in the beginning it was tough when she popped up but now I couldn't care less.
My situation is a little different as I have a young son with my exgf so it is a means to see pictures of him. Also as I was working away fb was the only way my exgf would communicate with me. What I recommend more than blocking is just weaning yourself off of fb. It used to take up so much of my life and now it only wastes five minutes of my time. Title: Re: Facebook. To block or not to block a BPD and npd? Post by: troisette on November 29, 2015, 02:42:55 PM I had the same concern about blocking on FB. That I was being childish, that it would appear petty and spiteful.
Advice was to do it as part of NC and I did. There was a sense of relief the first time I opened up FB, knowing I would not see his posts. I hadn't realised how stress inducing it had been. I have to be on FB because of the private political pages I belong to, otherwise I'd be off. A perverse part of me still misses his posts though! Title: Re: Facebook. To block or not to block a BPD and npd? Post by: juniorswailing on November 29, 2015, 02:56:38 PM I haven't blocked mine anywhere but she had blocked me on FB and WhatsApp.
Hey ho. Title: Re: Facebook. To block or not to block a BPD and npd? Post by: Schermarhorn on November 29, 2015, 03:09:24 PM I had my ex blocked, but I decided to unblock her.
If I truly get "over her", I shouldn't have to use blocking. Plus, we since the last time we talked we ended on okay terms. |