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Title: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: JayApril on December 06, 2015, 08:07:41 PM Has anyone had experience with a borderline who ran out of lies to tell the people you all know and moved themselves to a different group of people to further validate their vile behavior?
I told my Bpdx the truth about his behavior giving examples in detail, and told him that he needs professional help, along with references to Bpd related books. He later took that email and posted it on Facebook. ... which I'm sure he tried to use that as amo, but from the comments a lot of people agreed with me. He claims to be seeking help but, I don't believe it. He also tried to break our no contact by asking for my phone number again (like I changed it *eye roll*) but, I said unless it's about visiting or our LO is sick, NO. So I suppose it was just a test to try and suck me back in. But... . My Bpdex has since become grossly apologetic due to getting an ear full from his family, not by my doing. All of his friends and family have recognized his behavior and have since started to speak up about it. He has currently found a new group of friends out of state to campaign with and, I am sure that this will fail at some point too. What is your experience with the ending and realization of from others about the smear campaign? Title: Re: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: Joem678 on December 06, 2015, 08:23:50 PM My wife has engaged in a smear campaign about six times in our marriage. Every Single time the fantasy has fallen apart she has lost mostly every friend every colleague and most of her family because of this.
She has never wanted to tell the truth and has isolated the people that are closest to us like her mother. I am currently in probably the biggest near campaign of our marriage and it seems it is going to crumble Title: Re: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: JayApril on December 06, 2015, 08:28:04 PM My wife has engaged in a smear campaign about six times in our marriage. Every Single time the fantasy has fallen apart she has lost mostly every friend every colleague and most of her family because of this. She has never wanted to tell the truth and has isolated the people that are closest to us like her mother. I am currently in probably the biggest near campaign of our marriage and it seems it is going to crumble See that's what I don't get. You smear campaign more than once with the same people? Don't they get that others can put two and two together, and that their efforts are causing their biggest fear abandonment to become reality. Title: Re: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: Joem678 on December 06, 2015, 08:35:18 PM It depends on the severity. My wife out does herself and then can't keep up.
Title: Re: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: JayApril on December 06, 2015, 08:42:41 PM It depends on the severity. My wife out does herself and then can't keep up. What do you mean severity? And yes my ex does that, and before you know you catch him in lies. He often forgets what lies he began with. Title: Re: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: Joem678 on December 06, 2015, 09:08:33 PM She digs herself in a hole.
She doesn't understand that there is an emotional expectation with her smear campaign. For example l, she once accused me of raping her in college. She couldn't keep up the performance and started talking to me. All her friends turned their back on her. She had to move dormitories. Five years ago I was supporting another family. Blah blah blah. Title: Re: Bpd apologizing. ..Out of lies? Post by: JayApril on December 06, 2015, 09:40:52 PM She digs herself in a hole. She doesn't understand that there is an emotional expectation with her smear campaign. For example l, she once accused me of raping her in college. She couldn't keep up the performance and started talking to me. All her friends turned their back on her. She had to move dormitories. Five years ago I was supporting another family. Blah blah blah. What a terrible lie! Yikes. But, I understand what your saying. |