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Hello,  I am since end of June NC with my ex,  I left her after few earlier splits (2 years toghether with lot of drama and mental high) I Just felt with my mind that what is between us is not good for me but I was still attached... .Anyway I went through it (few times she was able to convince me to stay). First 2 months was "madhouse" I was completly unable to do something, she painted me black totally ignored me and told me very bad and sąd things over me didn't expected this from her. Things got better nów I started to eat proper do excercises kept my job and even was promoted. But yesterday I had a dream with her and today she was whole time in my head... .  I had thoughts to See her fb or sens her a message I didn't do it but it went through my mind. Is this normal process of grieving/healing that I will have flashbacks of her from time to time? 

hey pablo826 


i would say so. my ex and i broke up just short of five years ago now. i still get the occasional dream, although it is no longer painful or emotional. this was a traumatic experience for all of us. we can live through and work through the pain, im not sure our minds and bodies ever entirely forget it nor should they. the pain attached to these dreams will almost certainly lessen with more time, though. every bit of it is progress  |iiii

Hey Pablo, rest assured, this too shall pass

I think we are more traumatised than we notice at first and healing is not linear. However, if you work on yourself and take good care of yourself, effects do diminish in time. Sometimes, we subconsciously allow ourselves to feel new fears and discomforts when we feel safer actually. Mindfulness, mindful thought techniques and grounding help me a lot.