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Title: My young adult daughter Post by: Christiner on December 14, 2015, 01:09:59 PM Hi,
New to the group - my 24 year old daughter has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. She has been unable to keep a job, continue school, etc. She is also exhibiting signs of psychosis. She is in the hospital but coming home - I am upset about her coming home so soon - only 5 days and know I have to set limits. I feel like I can never have a life and know some of it is my inability to follow through on rules but, how do you kick out your kid - particularly a daughter in pain? Title: Re: My Young Adult Daughter Post by: Kwamina on December 15, 2015, 10:30:18 AM Hi Christiner
I am sorry to hear your daughter has been diagnosed with BPD and is having these problems. Is there a plan in place for continued treatment after she leaves the hospital and comes home? Will she be getting therapy? Setting boundaries/limits is indeed very important when dealing with a BPD child. I suggest you take a look at the tools and lessons to the right of this message board to help you get started here. Among others, we have information about communicating boundaries/limits there. Welcome to bpdfamily Title: Re: My Young Adult Daughter Post by: madmom on December 16, 2015, 06:09:04 PM I have a 27 year old BPD daughter, about 5 years ago she had a short hospitalization and like you I was scared to death and confused about what to do next. One of the things she was willing to do was go into family counseling with my husband and I to deal with all of the things you mentioned, setting boundaries, planning for what comes next, what to do/what not to do. We found it helpful and it was nice to have a neutral party to work with. I would strongly encourage you to look and use the tools and lessons on the right. I found the use of SET, listening with empathy, validation and dealing with the FOG particularly helpful. Best wishes, it is a rough road, but things can get better. You are not alone, we are here to help in any way we can.
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