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Title: Hello to all :)..it's been a while... Post by: Newton on December 15, 2015, 09:56:29 AM The layout and colour schemes appear to have changed a little... .I hope the integrity and positivity have remained... . |iiii
This place helped me a great deal during dark days... .thought I'd pay a visit now those have passed... . Title: Re: Hello to all :)..it's been a while... Post by: Sunfl0wer on December 15, 2015, 10:08:57 AM Hi Newton,
Do you want to update us on what has been going on with you? ~Sunflower Title: Re: Hello to all :)..it's been a while... Post by: Newton on December 15, 2015, 10:45:56 AM Hi Sunfl0wer ...
Well the Readers Digest version is that the process of finding this place, working with a therapist... .recognising my pattern of choosing dysfunctional relationships... .awareness of the origins and motives for that etc... .breaking away from those (and steering clear of those exhibiting traits now... .regularly!)... .has created space for me to make my life look how I want it to... .it's a work in progress |iiii I received an email I guess was sent out to past members... .I thought I'd drop by... .|iiii Title: Re: Hello to all :)..it's been a while... Post by: cloudten on December 18, 2015, 10:17:25 AM How long have you been in your recovery?
Title: Re: Hello to all :)..it's been a while... Post by: Newton on December 23, 2015, 04:46:59 AM Hey cloudten... .. Hmm, I'd sought therapy for depression and anxiety a few years before initially posting here (without having heard the word "codependence"... .then).
As seems to be quite common amongst some members I arrived at bpdfamily.com during a particularly bewildering experience/breakup with a partner I believe displayed symptoms of BPD. My intial aim was to use the knowledge gained here to save the relationship and 'help' my partner/ex. . Fantastic support and contributions allowed me to realise the futility of that approach... .and more importantly to focus on my motives for wanting to! |iiii Recovery is a work in progress... .I have healthier boundaries now, and a better understanding of how my FOO dynamic contributed to my destructive patterns of behaviour in adulthood... .This seems to have been key in managing depression/anxiety and I'm very discerning about who I associate with now after researching cluster B disorders. Progress seemed incredibly slow at first... .but after a lifetime of thinking/feeling/acting a certain way any change takes time. I'd have to look back at my first post to be definitive as to when I arrived here... .but I know I'd find that man unrecognisible to me now |iiii |