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A couple of things led me to check to see if I was still blocked on FB and to my surprise I am no longer blocked.

It's been 2 months since we broke up and about 2 weeks since the last contact.

She blocked me soon after we broke up but now I wonder why she had unblocked me.

I used the opportunity to block her FB account but it has set me back a little with the questions.

Any thoughts?

She probably unbloked you to see how you where doing. To check if you had moved on and forgot about her.

Even though a pwBPD may not want you they don't like to think you have moved on.

This is spot on, but why?

Who knows, really?   Perhaps they eventually realize how nice we were to them?  The last time mine contacted me, she only did so after she read through my timeline and found a reference to her that was actually quite sentimental and was tied to something that held meaning for us.   

What things led you to check her Facebook?

Did you block her because you're worried about something?

The couple things were finding old text messages from when we first started dating and also seeing her face come up on my news feed on Facebook as I forgot she has a personal page I liked while we were together.

I just don't get it she blocked me as soon as she started dating this new guy a week after we split. Then she secretly unblocks me and I think its because she knows I am in Japan this week maybe.

I blocked her so she can not stalk me anymore on her terms not easily at least. Once she realises I blocked her as well maybe she will realise I am moving on.

It's been 2 months nearly now and although I miss her from time to time and things remind me of her it gets easier everyday. I can't really tell if I miss her directly or just company from a relationship.

Stalking me though clearly says something about her thinking about me. Missing me, seeing if I have moved on who knows. She is still with this guy so I dont expect an attempted recycle but it could be possible she tries in the future.

Everything with a pwBPD just brings up question after question.

What do you think?

Some good news though, had a date a couple weeks ago with a nice girl we have been speaking alot and it has helped move on bit by bit.

If you mean the last sentence then I think it has to do with their self worth. If you have moved on and forgot them then they where not as important as they had hoped. If you are still trying to recycle them or openly hating them then they still matter.

I think that you're split white.

What's the back-story on this guy?  It sounds like you have been split for 2 months. How did they get together, did they rush into things?

I think that blocking will help if you're dating. That way she won't see pictures if you upload them and your ex is peeking on Facebook. It may trigger jealousy ( inhibited grieving with a pwBPD ) and she may angrily act out.

It's a good idea to put space between both of you ( blocking ) for a little while if you're detaching and moving on - self protection. Focus on you  :)

Yeah we broke up 2 months ago because I caught her talking to this guy on Skype and they were both saying they loved each other after knowing each other for 3 weeks. When I confronted her, argument and then she said she wanted space to be alone. Instead I knew that meant she would just get with him and she did after 10 days of us LC. That is when she blocked me on FB etc.

Since then she has tried to create drama to talk to me which has worked to some extent. Then I went to Japan last week and checked if I was still blocked which I was not, so I blocked her.

She has since we broke up being trying to get information about me (how I am, what I am doing etc)

I am not dating anyone at the moment but I am talking to a couple of other girls.

Just not sure what is going through my puBPFexgf head. Why she feels the need to stalk me and then pretend she does not care to anyone etc.

It sounds like they quickly became passionate if they told each other they loved each other after three weeks. It's a very short period of time to get to know someone.  

A pwBPD have chronic feelings of shame and she blocked you because it's too emotional for her. A pwBPD  want rescue and they may not be aware that they want rescue. You are her savior. Its hard to say if their relationship is going to be over soon it sounds things are not going well.