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Title: Acting on boundaries Post by: Beeblue on December 27, 2015, 06:20:56 AM The child I speak of is a 37 year old woman. I have long suspected that she is BPD, but have no clinical diagnosis. She lives alone in NYC and is working in a very responsible position.
She arrived in South Carolina on Christmas Eve for a family visit . It started at the airport when her 35 yr old brother was late for pick up. She immediately raged, took an expensive cab ride and proceeded to threaten to leave. I begged her to stay and get some rest. This abusive behavior continued into Christmas with some signs of lightening. She stayed in bedroom most of the time and was verbally abusive to me and others. Yesterday started awful and became worse. I told her she could not behave this way in my home and had to leave. She demanded money to change ticket which I gave her and her brother took her to the airport to sit and wait all afternoon for 6 pm flight. I am so worried because she lives alone and has been seeing a therapist for years. She lies and manipulates family members and friends. She has abandonment issues from her father that are legitimate, but cannot get past with all the love and support from family. Please help me to help her. She holds me captive to her mood swings and blames me for everything. Has difficulty holding very good jobs and feels the world is against her. Title: Re: Acting on boundaries Post by: Susan Peabody on December 27, 2015, 01:10:19 PM My son rages when he does not get his way. Especially when it comes to feeling rejected which is every time he does not get his way. What a difficult combination, feeling rejected instead of practicing acceptance. My son is lonely and wanted me to cook breakfast on Christmas like I used to do when he was a child. When I declined he raged. Old rituals are not going to heal his loneliness. As long as I don't reject my son he is fine. But sometimes I have to. I have a life. I hope you know we on this board to support you as you deal with your daughter. |