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On December 3rd, my pwBPD unfriended me and blocked me from Facebook and went completely silent on me.  I assumed she blocked my texts as well, so I didn't bother trying to contact her. 

On Christmas, I sent her a "Merry Christmas" text.  We aren't officially NC; I see December 3rd as more of a temper tantrum than anything.  I didn't expect a reply, but five hours later, I got one ("Merry Christmas".  I just decided to let it rest there, as there really wasn't a reason to exchange more than a simple holiday greeting.  But a few hours later, I got another text from her: "If you're done being silly, we can talk again."  I'm assuming the "silly" comment was in relation to what I said on the 3rd to make her block me, though I suppose it could relate to anything.  I did take it as a good sign, as she just said I was "silly" and not something much worse.  I replied to this about an hour after it was sent and told her that it would be nice if we could talk again.  I heard nothing back, so I sent another text yesterday afternoon and asked her how she's been.  I still haven't heard anything from her.  As it's been over 36 hours since her last text, I doubt I will.  And I'm done texting her.  So, I'm chalking this up to the fact that it was Christmas and leaving it at that.  I'm still blocked on Facebook, by the way.

She's been more dysregulated and unstable the past few months than I've ever seen her before.  Since August, she's gone through at least two guys and went barhopping with another a few days after she broke up with the guy she'd been with for six months.  Her mom came to visit a few weeks ago, and my pwBPD told her that she is ready for her to die (her mom has serious medical issues).  She's formally discarded me twice since September and is now not replying to me.  Ever since she was diagnosed with BPD, it's like she's trying so hard to prove that she doesn't have it but is ultimately doing the exact opposite and is proving to everyone that she does have it.

Hey SS, It sounds to me like you are making a lot out of a few crumbs that your BPD Ex tossed your way.  You deserve better, my friend.  It also sounds like your Ex knows that if she says "jump" you will say "how high?"  Is that really what you want for yourself?  Sorry to be throwing a wet blanket on your "mini-reunion," but I'm concerned that you might be setting yourself up to get hurt again.  I wonder if you are trying too hard to reconnect?  Suggest you proceed with caution and, in the meantime, be kind to yourself.

LuckyJim

Not an ex, just a friend.

And we're actually good.  She rarely has off work but ended up having off on Saturday and spent it with family.  She texted me back yesterday morning, and we chatted for an hour.   Then, I went off to do chores and clean.  I texted her in the afternoon, and she replied a few hours later. 

Sounds like you and your friend are doing OK, so please disregard my message.

LuckyJim