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Title: Flat out don't understand this behavior
Post by: burritoman on January 01, 2016, 04:15:52 AM
Happy New Year, everyone!   9

How is it that my exBPD can leave me with a multitude of wishy washy statements to get ME to break up with HER, leave behind thousands of dollars of things (in a storage unit which I'm paying for), but then go live it up in her personal life and not reach out to me for 2 months? Posting what seems to be an endless party of fun and "screw you I don't need a man" on Facebook, but still leave up our relationship photos from the past 3 years? And that said, how is it that she can change her profile picture to a shot of herself and my replacement, but then leave up a "featured photo" of us right on her main page for all to see (even my replacement)? And also, even though it's blatantly obvious that he IS my replacement, why won't she acknowledge it on FB and just say that they're in a relationship?

This to me is typical BPD behavior, but hell if I can understand it... .


Title: Re: Flat out don't understand this behavior
Post by: NCEA on January 01, 2016, 04:30:46 AM
People don't go back and start deleting stuff. How old is she? Sounds like a typical 20s behavior, after all, she's a girl. Just immature, that's all.


Title: Re: Flat out don't understand this behavior
Post by: burritoman on January 01, 2016, 04:33:52 AM
People don't go back and start deleting stuff. How old is she? Sounds like a typical 20s behavior, after all, she's a girl. Just immature, that's all.

She's 28. That said, she's eliminated all traces of her two long-terms before me. Two men ago was her ex-fiance, and the man before me she has maybe one or two photos buried deep. By the time I came along she had eliminated most traces of him on FB.


Title: Re: Flat out don't understand this behavior
Post by: Confused108 on January 01, 2016, 04:53:58 AM
We have all I'm sure read about how these BPD Exs of ours can work.What the symptoms are with BPD etc. It is one crazy disorder. Hell they want you , they don't. I love you, I never did. Wow! BPD at its finest. Man your ex sounds like mine. Maybe they are sisters? Mine after she tore my heart out and dumped me was still "stalking" my FB page. I know this bc she told me herself. I was seperated at the time and a friend had said something about my wife. Well my ex had seen it an told me it was obvious I had gone back to her when that was no the case at all. So they don't want us ... .But they don't want us to go on after them either. She now  claims she is getting back with her ex husband too! Lol after just supposedly getting divorced last year? Good luck man! Stay strong! Happy New Year!


Title: Re: Flat out don't understand this behavior
Post by: NCEA on January 01, 2016, 09:39:11 AM
Yea so when she did it she was in her early to mid 20s. Why do you think she's BPD?