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I am currently going through a divorce with my EX-BPD wife. We splitted about 18 months ago. We had come up to a written agreement for the Divorce and all that was missing was her signature. At that time she had found a replacement and was doing therapy on a regular basis and everything seemed well. I set my boundaries, told her that due to her BPD and our past history (we were together for 7 years which was very taxing for me), once the divorce was final, I had no intention of maintaining any kind of relationship with her. Which she said she understood and agreed to.

That was until last fall when my replacement dumped her and then she wanted hold-up on the divorce proceedings for a few months because she would loose my insurance coverage she is using for therapy. Now, I am not an un-reasonable man so I gave her a few months extension to sign the paper.

Then She saw a pic of one of her favourite cousin and me in a bar and the deal was off. (I think she was more mad at him for being friendly toward me than at me for seeing him.) To make a long story short, after a flurry of emotional accusations and a full blown BPD crisis, she told me to shove the divorce papers where the sun don't shine.

Then on NYE this year she sent me a text message asking me "if I remembered the name of a place we went scuba diving in Jamaica 7 years ago". I ignored it so she called me a few days ago, asking why I was so impolite to her and not answering her message. I told her I had set my boundaries with her I felt like I did not have to reply to her.

She then on a monologue on how much I put the onus of the blame for the divorce on her and how she had to go through therapy because of this and so on. And could'nt understand why I didnt want to talk to her again And I lost it. I yelled back saying "yes I believe she was horrible to me and still acted like a pain the ass even today and that I believe that it is quite normal that I don't want to see her again"

She quickly shut up. Texted me a few minutes later, saying she would sign the papers and that I needed therapy to work over my anger as I am clearly not over her. She even recommended me her therapist and all.

So here are my questions for you:

a) Did it ever happen to you to loose your temper while dealing with your ex wBPD ?

b) Is it normal not to want to have anything to do with an ex wBPD ? and;

c) Did you guys do "Anger therapy" or some stuff like that after you broke-up with your ex wBPD ?