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Does anyone else's partner have manic days? Like can't sit still, can't focus, makes random ridiculous statements, is illogical etc

Yesterday was one of these days for my wife. It put me on edge and I felt really uncomfortable around her. Then today she is in a really irritable mood. There must be some kind of link.

I tried to get my wife to go for a walk yesterday to walk off some of the excess energy but she didn't want to hear anything.

Yes.  My partner is also bipolar which can be comorbid.   She has just recently had a setback with the bipolar disorder.    For us the random statements are delusion and psycho motor over flow.  It's not something my partner can control.   

How is going for you today?

Ah my partner doesn't have bipolar. She just has odd days where she is bonkers! In the nicest possible way... .

She endrd up taking her meds earlier yesterday in order to calm down and so she fell asleep. She was being so rude and inconsiderate. However thisnmorning she was even worse. Not so manic but just rude, snappy, shouting, aggressive. I ended up ignoring her and couldn't wait for her to leave for work! Felt very annoyed as yesterday I had done her tax assessment for her, went to her psych appointment with her, and I was feeling vulnerable about something from my own past.

I feel really fed up with it.

It makes sense you would feel annoyed and fed up.   Living with someone with a mental health issue is stressful.    It takes a toil.     I have been struggling with bronchitis, and have been sitting a particularly difficult shiva.  This is when my partner has an episode of her Bipolar. 

At one level I understand this is what I signed up for.   It's part and parcel of having a romantic relationship with someone with a mental illness.    Things go wrong.   There are difficulties.   All relationships have challenges,  mine has some unique ones.  It will never be easy and it's important to take an honest and unflinching look at that.

The flip side of that coin is when I get tired, and fed up I need to self care.   I'm responsible to take appropriate breaks and give myself mini holidays to recharge my own batteries.

Feeling fed up is normal,  what can you do to make your day better?

She also does this weird flirty behaviour. She flirts and comes onto me but then rejects me if I respond. This is a recent thing. I find it hurtful because we have both been through our own experiences of sexual abuse and recently I have been really struggling and trying to make a decision whether to report the man who abused me. I've always been supportive about her sexual issues but now it feels like she is throwing mine in my face. It also feels a lot like attention seeking.

PwBPD have porous boundaries and a strong desire to merge into amoeba like oneness.  Until it feels uncomfortable and then they want you to move away.

It sounds like you have a lot going on.  A lot of your own stuff to deal with.    It will be very difficult for your wife to consistently support you.  Are you able to get personal support outside your marriage?   From friends and family?

I haven't talked about it with my family as the guy works for them! I have counselling but in between sessions is hard.

My husband will definitely have days where he seems Manic. He has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder but I really think the only reason he became Manic before was because they tried to put him on depression meds and it set him off. I've been with him for 10 years and only seen one actual Manic episode and it lasted 3 months, ending with hospitalization.

Yesterday he seemed manic, very odd behavior seemed much more energetic and just was rude and kept jumping to conclusions about things. I wanted to run for the hills. He seems to be better today, but this is not the first time I thought "are you manic?". I'm not sure what causes it, I always thought it was him skipping a dose on his meds but then he will claim he took his meds.