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Don't know where to turn at this point. I married a BPD woman with an MBA who gets good jobs but quits in less than 3 years. We have moved 3 times in the last 8 years and know we are living in another state. We have a 7 year old daughter than I love dearly and I am concern that my daughter will never have a stable life. MY finances have been hurt by all of the moving. We brought a house three years ago. We like the home. My wife recently texted me that she is quitting her job again. I am at the end of rope and now know that she is not capable of keeping a job. I know I cannot afford to pay all of the bills and mortgage. The house is in her name and I know she may have to hit rock bottom to get help. My only concern at this point is our daughter and what to do about this. I cannot take anymore. I pray for her to get better but she is determined to not keep a job. We could lose everything because of her BPD! Any words of advice would help!

owonem,

That's a lot of pressure to put on your family when one income earner acts irresponsibly, or checks out of her responsibilities. What's going on here do you think? Conflicts with co-workers? Depression? (Could be both.)

What does she tell you is the rationale in her mind for job-hopping and quitting? Is she at all open to getting help?

Turkish

It's natural for people to leave jobs... .but usually when they have another lined up. Sometimes you can take a nice little month-long break between switching jobs, especially if you've been sensible and have savings.

It's a different matter when you quit out of the blue. It's difficult, because you can't demand she stays in a job if she is unhappy. As Turkish said, what is the reason for job changes? Is it always quite sudden and without consultation?