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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: blackbirdsong on January 09, 2016, 03:02:39 PM



Title: BPD relationships and STDs
Post by: blackbirdsong on January 09, 2016, 03:02:39 PM
I am interested to see the pattern of STDs and BPD relationships.

I ended my relationship 2 months ago, and soon, the window period will expire for most of the STDs. Right after the relationship, when I learned more about BPD and partner exchange I performed tests for HIV and HepC. They were negative. I am planning to repeat those tests and also perform additional tests for other STDs and hopefully they will also be negative.  

I don't know if she has STD. When we started to have unprotected sex we talked about it. I knew that I don't have any, she claimed that she is also 'clean'. She was really concerned about this, she wanted to be sure that I don't have any STD. At that time I felt more secure because of her reaction, that she cares about that, but now I am not sure what that means in BPD context?   Maybe a projection, that she has or had STD? Hate when I need to make mind context switching when trying to enter their mind.  

Now I know that she had large number of partners, not the numbers I can read here in some stories, but above average number. She even had homosexual experiments, but in the context of STDs, lesbian relationship should be low risk factor.

The poll is anonymus, so you can be honest.  


Title: Re: BPD relationships and STDs
Post by: JaneStorm on January 09, 2016, 04:49:14 PM
This is the biggest driving force that gave me the strength to end it. I could handle the tantrums but not the threat of catching a nasty! I too will need to get at least (2) in the coming six months. So far, I dodged a bullet.


Title: Re: BPD relationships and STDs
Post by: blackbirdsong on January 09, 2016, 05:00:39 PM
This is the biggest driving force that gave me the strength to end it. I could handle the tantrums but not the threat of catching a nasty! I too will need to get at least (2) in the coming six months. So far, I dodged a bullet.

Actually, pregnancy fear was my primal issue. But STDs are at the top of the list.


Title: Re: BPD relationships and STDs
Post by: JaneStorm on January 09, 2016, 05:26:46 PM
This is the biggest driving force that gave me the strength to end it. I could handle the tantrums but not the threat of catching a nasty! I too will need to get at least (2) in the coming six months. So far, I dodged a bullet.

Actually, pregnancy fear was my primal issue. But STDs are at the top of the list.

I understand that! I got 'fixed' when I was 26 so the cruddies scare me. I have a strict documentation policy but it does not prevent this type of exposure