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Title: Bpd and codependency Post by: Tweenie on January 21, 2016, 04:04:40 PM Hi
This is my first post and I need some advice to clear up a real sense of confusion in my mind. Although she doesn't have a formal diagnosis, I think my daughter has BPD. I clearly recognise that my relationship with her is codependent but I also identify with BPD symptoms myself. Could we both have BPD, or am I confusing my codependency with BPD. Any advice gratefully received. Thanks Title: Re: Bpd and codependency Post by: Turkish on January 22, 2016, 12:14:23 AM Hi Tweenie,
*welcome* In what ways do you think that you may be codependent? How old is your daughter, and what's going on right now? , Turkish Title: Re: Bpd and codependency Post by: marie1057 on January 22, 2016, 12:23:36 AM My son is 24 and undiagnosed. I do believe he has BPD. I have read about 12 books and researched thoroughly and I think my husband has BPD full blown too. Funny thing is I have a few traits myself. So since neither one of them will get help at this time, I am doing all I can to listen, validate and educate. I am doing the workbooks and growing leap and bounds for myself. I an currently reading The Angry Heart by Joseph Santoro and this one in my opinion really gets to the heart of the matter.
Title: Re: Bpd and codependency Post by: donnab on January 22, 2016, 01:27:07 AM I am reading both "Codependency No More" by Melodie Beatie & "Stop Caretaking The Borderline or Narcissist How to End The Drama and Get on With Life" both are very helpful and like they were written with me.
I definitely have become codependent and became quite ill myself recently. These books are helping as well as EMDR (trauma based therapy) but I have a lot of anxiety about letting go and also allowing myself to be happy - I've lived in this state for so long. I feel sad when I have realised I have a moment where I am free from anxiety and even happy. It's a long road but I feel I owe it to myself to try to get well |