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Title: Feeling robbed by my dead BPD sister tonight Post by: ropend on January 25, 2016, 10:20:15 PM Not sure if I've already been over this but after she died her laptop became mine and I learned with liked many of the same movies and music.
I feel robbed knowing that she never shared this side of herself with me. What the heck? We could have enjoyed talking about things we had in common. Title: Re: Feeling robbed by my dead BPD sister tonight Post by: Turkish on January 25, 2016, 11:34:42 PM Maybe she did, but suffered from too much shame (self-hatred) or was too tortured by her illness to talk about it. I'm sorry ropend... .this must be extremely triggering.
Title: Re: Feeling robbed by my dead BPD sister tonight Post by: pessim-optimist on January 26, 2016, 10:57:08 PM I'm so sorry too, ropend... .the thing is, you were definitely 'robbed' and so was your sister... .it was a no-win deal. :'(
Title: Re: Feeling robbed by my dead BPD sister tonight Post by: HappyChappy on January 27, 2016, 08:35:38 AM I feel robbed knowing that she never shared this side of herself with me. What the heck? We could have enjoyed talking about things we had in common. Ropend, I do feel for you. A terrible trigger and a tragic loss. But maybe see it as flattery. We tend to copy or mimic what impresses us. So maybe this was her way of flattering you ? Her way of hugging you goodbye ? There are grief councillors (available on the NHS for example). But for what’s its worth, your thoughts and wishes sound normal, understandable. Don’t suffer alone. Big hug from me. |