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Title: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: muvaki on February 11, 2016, 03:25:25 AM He is sending pictures of him and his new beau who is his ex, who he says he has dated the longest time ever in his life before. He is verbally abusing me and trying to turn my family against me by telling them lies , I am in so much pain. I feel naked, stripped and have fallen apart. If he is so happy why does he want to keep inflicting pain on me and rubbing it in
Title: Re: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: Driver on February 11, 2016, 03:37:21 AM Engage NC, don't open any of his message, don't answer his calls, don't check his profile nor social network status and explain the situation to your friends and family who could be affected.
Title: Re: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: Larmoyant on February 11, 2016, 04:13:57 AM Muvaki, this is truly cruel and callous and my heart goes out to you. I agree with Driver. The best thing you can do right now is to stop looking at/reading/answering any communication from him. Can you talk with your family and ask them not to talk with him and not to tell you anything more he's said? They are your family not his and I can only hope that they will support you. I know it’s hard not to look at his messages, but you have to protect yourself. He’s intentionally trying to hurt you as much as possible and knows all the right buttons to press. Don’t give him the opportunity. Come back and we’ll help support you so you can deal with all this pain he’s heaping on you. Love and hugs, xx
Title: Re: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: Confused108 on February 11, 2016, 05:48:45 AM He is sending pictures of him and his new beau who is his ex, who he says he has dated the longest time ever in his life before. He is verbally abusing me and trying to turn my family against me by telling them lies , I am in so much pain. I feel naked, stripped and have fallen apart. If he is so happy why does he want to keep inflicting pain on me and rubbing it in I am so sorry you are going thru this. If he is telling your family lies and they believe him show your family the pictures he has been sending to you with him and his ex/ now girlfriend. Any abuse emails/ texts show your family as proof that he is the nut case not you! These individuals are very good at "turning the tables" on us Nons and making us look like the crazy one. My ex pulled the same thing after she discarded me. Tried to make me look like I'm crazy . That's why I have saved every email, text, and Facebook message from her in case I ever need it later on. Good luck and consider yourself the lucky one. I know it hurts like hell I do but you can't help him unless he wants help. You deserve better then him. Title: Re: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: muvaki on February 11, 2016, 07:44:46 AM I just want to thank you all for your support. I feel much better. I have asked my lawyer to take a letter asking him not to harass me or sent me emotionally abusive messages.I know He does not think I have that kind of courage or strength to take legal action, he generally thinks I am a push over
Title: Re: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: Pretty Woman on February 11, 2016, 08:36:35 AM Any reaction gives them what they want... .to affect you. The posters on here have sound advice. NC. NC will help you heal. NC means DO NOT LOOK AT FAKEBOOK. FAKEbook. Remember this, people only put the "best stuff" out there and things are rarely what they seem.
You don't deserve a person who hurts you intentionally. If your ex beau was so happy he wouldn't be rubbing this new person in your face. When "" normal relationships end there is respect there. People are not rude and bringing the new person everywhere to hurt you. You hold the power here. If he can no longer get a reaction he will either amp it up for awhile or find a new target. Stay strong! PW Title: Re: I have just been devalued and discarded Post by: SadDaddy on February 11, 2016, 03:58:53 PM That's a really crappy thing to do to someone that shows a total lack of empathy. I'm sorry and no one should have to go through something like that.
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