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Title: Keeping NC when she tries to get your attention? Post by: Saradane on February 14, 2016, 02:20:01 PM Hello Everyone ,
I'm asking this question based on past experiences and trends, and as a preemptive measure. My BPDxGF and I broke up again. I'm initiating NC, but the longest we've gone NC is 5 days because she has reached out and acted recklessly and dangerously to get my attention. She also has a tenancy to post things on social media to get my attention or come to places that I usually stay, come to my job, or hangout with my friends. My question is, how do I keep NC? I suffer from codependency, so it isn't easy. I also worry about her and her reckless decisions. Any and all advice is much appreciated. Thank you in advance. Title: Re: Keeping NC when she tries to get your attention? Post by: Driver on February 14, 2016, 02:30:12 PM Hi there,
I had a similar situation. In my case, I tried one last time to explain to her that I felt unable to help her and that she needed help from a professional. I had also warned her that if she tried to self-harm one too many times that I had no option but to initiate NC as I had the impression that being around caused her to suffer in the toxic r/s we were in. It didn't help. So she started harassing 24/7 till I finally called the cops to calm her down, but without filing a complaint. Title: Re: Keeping NC when she tries to get your attention? Post by: thisworld on February 14, 2016, 05:54:57 PM Saradane hi,
It's a tough situation to go NC when you worry about someone but seeing the role of codependency in this a very positive thing for your emotional health as well as your ex's (as we codependents tend to control and enable a lot). Are you doing anything about your codependency and where do you think you need to strengthen yourself so that codependency does not interfere with your life? My question is, how do I keep NC? I suffer from codependency, so it isn't easy. I also worry about her and her reckless decisions. What is it that worries you? Stay strong |