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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: juniorswailing on February 27, 2016, 03:42:11 AM



Title: Well
Post by: juniorswailing on February 27, 2016, 03:42:11 AM
True to form mine has come back. Started with an anonymous birthday card last month then, and I'm not sure how, then we started talking again through Whatsapp.

We have met up twice and been out for something to eat and a few drinks. She is still as gorgeous and sexy and says all the right things but is still displaying some of her old traits.

Currently she is ignoring me, or being very curt with her messages I should say, as I spent all day yesterday out on my motorbike and didn't get in touch till later in the afternoon. I am not making any effort to get in touch with her at the moment. I sent the last message, if she wants to get back in touch it's up to her.

I will probably see her again but the difference this time is I know what her game is.


Title: Re: Well
Post by: once removed on February 29, 2016, 09:00:13 AM
hey juniorswailing 

what kind of relationship do you want with this person? friendship? do you want to revive the relationship?


Title: Re: Well
Post by: juniorswailing on February 29, 2016, 11:50:27 AM
I have no ill will against her. She was part of my life, albeit for a short time.


I guess if we can be friends then that would be good. I can't see me ever living with her again or being more than friends, that was too traumatic and I won't go through it again,



Title: Re: Well
Post by: HarleypsychRN on February 29, 2016, 01:08:29 PM
True to form mine has come back. Started with an anonymous birthday card last month then, and I'm not sure how, then we started talking again through Whatsapp.

We have met up twice and been out for something to eat and a few drinks. She is still as gorgeous and sexy and says all the right things but is still displaying some of her old traits.

Currently she is ignoring me, or being very curt with her messages I should say, as I spent all day yesterday out on my motorbike and didn't get in touch till later in the afternoon. I am not making any effort to get in touch with her at the moment. I sent the last message, if she wants to get back in touch it's up to her.

I will probably see her again but the difference this time is I know what her game is.

Far be it for me to advise you in my current weak state... but they know what to say and how to say it to suck you back in. Please be cautious my friend. They are very good at what they do.


Title: Re: Well
Post by: jessedsickabouther on February 29, 2016, 01:12:32 PM
You are doing exactly the right thing dude don't say a word to her. The best that you can hope for is that you guys have a little bit of extracurricular activity. Don't think beyond that in any terms and disconnect yourself from any outcome emotionally. Don't ask questions don't be emotional. If you want her in your life at all is going to be on her terms or prepare to walk away. She's going to leave and come back and leave and come back and it won't matter what you say. This has absolutely nothing to do with you so detach yourself emotionally or physically but choose one of them


Title: Re: Well
Post by: juniorswailing on March 01, 2016, 12:42:56 AM
Thanks guys.

I got sucked in first time but after finding this place her behaviour all fell into place.

I know what her 'game' is so I'm on alert!