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Title: Emotional incest as a child still affects me to this day Post by: Adultchildofabpd on March 06, 2016, 12:37:11 PM Hello,
I am really struggling and would like to reach out. I am a 40 year old female and still suffering the emotional trauma from my borderline mother. I cannot seem to cut her out of my life even though I know how harmful her behaviour is. I am doing some work on my past Trauma with a specialist who understands now but need to feel I'm not alone so I joined this network to learn more about other's experiences too. I went through a lot of emotional incest and raging abuse. Too scared to have a relationship. Very immobilised. Title: Re: Emotional incest as a child still affects me to this day Post by: Kwamina on March 06, 2016, 12:57:47 PM Hi AdultchildofaBPD
You are not alone! Welcome to bpdfamily Emotional incest is very difficult to deal with and I can understand how this can seriously affect you even to this day. Could you perhaps tell us a bit more about your mother? Has she for instance been diagnosed with BPD or perhaps any other disorder? Being raised by a BPD parent can be quite traumatizing, I am glad you are working with a specialist to help you process your experiences. We have a thread here about emotional incest that you might find helpful: Emotional or covert incest: discussing it and healing from it (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=274516.0) In that thread other members share their experiences with emotional incest and we discuss ways of coping with and healing from it. Title: Re: Emotional incest as a child still affects me to this day Post by: HappyChappy on March 08, 2016, 06:26:47 AM You're not alone, pretty much everyone on here has experience of a BPD close relationships. You're also a very popular age for this board so it took many of us this long to get here, but the main thing is you're doing something about it. You'll find a wealth of knowledge on here. I came here around 2 years ago, feeling unable to put up boundaries, but now I have things look so much better and clearer. It's a gradual process. It's good you're in Therapy, that's got to help. I'd recommend sharing stories or concerns on this website, as a way to heal. So what do you see as the barriers between you putting up boundaries with your BPD ? What BPD behaviour do you find the most challenging ?
Title: Re: Emotional incest as a child still affects me to this day Post by: Sunfl0wer on March 08, 2016, 06:44:37 AM Hi there,
I just wanted to join Kwamina and HappyChappy in welcoming you to the site. ~Sunflower |