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Title: Good news Post by: byfaith on March 07, 2016, 01:20:04 PM wanted to share some good news for a change... .
after a horrible week week my wife is showing signs that she is willing not only to go to MC but really work on our marriage. Our MC sent us each a link for a survey that we needed to take which consists of 400 questions that will give him a snapshot of where we are... .she actually did this yesterday :) We were discussing some issues. She asked me a question and I asked her if I could save it for our session and discuss it there and she agreed to that. I knew if I would have stated my issue right there she would have been triggered. I went to the MC by myself on Friday and really was impressed with him. He takes no sides. We discussed BPD for about 15 minutes. I wanted him to know that I am wanting to work on myself. I do realize that I have to work on boundaries for myself. I understand that setting and enforcing boundaries will either strengthen our relationship or drive us apart. That is the fear I need to get over. I have watched my wife set boundaries for herself. The boundaries that she has established for herself are to protect her, they cause me pain but to her they keep her safe. Title: Re: Good news Post by: tryingsome on March 07, 2016, 04:16:02 PM That is great news. Keep us informed.
My ex never went to her 'alone' session with the MC. We went as a couple, then I went, and then she never showed. Kind of the end of MC for us. But I have heard good things when both agree ago. Title: Re: Good news Post by: Icthelight on March 07, 2016, 04:21:07 PM Good to hear that there is progress. Keep posting to let us know how it is going.
Title: Re: Good news Post by: an0ught on March 13, 2016, 07:54:09 AM Hi byfaith,
boundaries are scary and will set you apart. There is little you can do about except for reaching over and connecting with validation. It will be a different relationship when it works and a healthier too. Hang in there |