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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: YoloDad on March 13, 2016, 01:32:05 PM



Title: Ex-Spouse BPD?
Post by: YoloDad on March 13, 2016, 01:32:05 PM
My ex-spouse went from idealizing me to hating me and treating me less than human.  I read other traits of BPD and they seem to fit her as well.  We have 3 kids together and it is difficult to co-parent.  She even has engaged in parent alientation trying to turn my kids against me. 


Title: Re: Ex-Spouse BPD?
Post by: Turkish on March 14, 2016, 12:33:37 AM
Hi Yolodad,

*welcome*

How old are your kids, and what's the custody schedule like? We'd love to hear more and how best we can support you. What kind of alienation tactics are going on?

Turkish


Title: Re: Ex-Spouse BPD?
Post by: unicorn2014 on March 14, 2016, 02:38:51 AM
Welcome to BPD family  

It sounds like you have a rudimentary understanding of BPD, the next step would be to learn the role you can play in reducing the conflict. My question would be do you think you are allowing your ex wife in any way to victimize you? I'm not sure if you're familiar with the karpman drama triangle, but I think it might help you.