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I broke up with my girlfriend of 11 months in October of last year. (she hid the fact she was diagnosed with BPD. Blamed her behavior on alcoholism) After three weeks and in between her blocking / unblocking me,  she tells me "Btw pray to whatever you believe in that in two weeks we didn't screw up" which she then cleared up to mean her pregnancy tests (plural) were positive. She refused to show me proof of these tests through pictures (we live two hours apart , thankfully) but said she was going to her doctor that Friday to get a blood test. Friday (November 20th 2015) rolls around and she says she's not pregnant, they said it was a chemical pregnancy or some weird hormone stuff, and that she definitely isn't lying because she would have to stop her medication for depression and BPD (decided to get put back on AFTER the hellish year she put me through). I asked for proof of this test. Which she agreed to,but then shortly thereafter became so argumentative and aggressive I had to block her on everything (which resulted in her spamming my phone for FOUR HOURS after midnight)  

So fast forward to last week. A friend who I talked to about  the pregnancy scare as it was happening messaged me asking if I was positive she wasn't pregnant because now she's saying her due date is August 18th of this year.  I went online and did a conception calculator thing and it's saying the possible dates would have been towards the end of November (a few days after she told me she went to the doctor's)

The last time we had sex was a almost a month  before what this calculator says is the possible dates. I am worried though because i almost never pulled out. She was on the pill for most of our relationship, and had an iud when we first started dating. I am positive she was taking the pill the last time we did anything. We've never had a pregnancy scare until the relationship ended. She also has lupus, which she said made becoming pregnant much harder. I unblocked her Facebook profile and she doesn't look like she put on weight, despite math saying she would be four months in roughly. Though she has been posting stuff like "not being able to drink til after August". She's 30 and it seems like she would have at least put up an ultrasound photo right? And although the calculator date is really close to when we last did anything, she had tons of ex friends with benefits  still in her life and near her. So even if she ISN'T lying there's that  possibility it's not mine.


I'm writing this thread because I have no idea what to do. My ex hasn't contacted me. Which despite being blocked, I'm sure she would make a fake profile or have someone else be a third party. Her giving up the chance to torment me kinda seems fishy.  Should I try to contact my ex and demand information about the pregnancy? I really really do NOT want to open lines of communication with her unless I absolutely have to.

Maybe it's me but I don't get it. You don't want to open up communication if you don't have to. You don't have to. If she is pregnant it isn't yours. You broke up in October. If her due date is August 18th the conception would have been between November 25th and December 2nd. August 18th minus 38 weeks. So unless you've had sex with her after October, the baby is not yours.

I just never got confirmation about the first tests. I'm not subconsciously trying to talk to her or wanting to. Just in a situation like this I'm pretty much clueless and don't know if getting piece of mind is worth messaging her and everything that comes along with it.

Regardless thank you for that. I asked a coworker who saw me go through that relationship about her pregnancy lengths and she said I probably don't have anything to worry about either

You're welcome  *)

I would just let it go and focus on you.

If she 'all of a sudden' gives birth 6 weeks before the due date and the baby is 'magically' looking like a fullterm baby, then it's time to worry.

But she probably would show more now if it was your baby as then she would be 4-6 weeks further along. So it's probably a 'friends with beneficial baby' situation if she is pregnant.

Focus on yourself now  *)

I -do- have awful luck 

Thank you again though!