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Title: Help Post by: ginamarie on March 15, 2016, 03:23:44 PM I've finally took a stand to end the abuse. I'm afraid of him still and what he is capable of. I'm not sure how far to take this. Please help
Title: Re: Help Post by: joeramabeme on March 15, 2016, 03:36:40 PM Ginamarie
I'm sorry for what brought you here but I'm glad you're with us. We help and support each other here. I wanted to ask if you have any immediate needs for safety? Do you have a plan for self protection if needed? Assuming you are not concerned about immediate safety, what is going on? Sounds like your SO has been abusive in some way and you are ready to take a stand? JRB Title: Re: Help Post by: love4meNOTu on March 15, 2016, 03:42:38 PM Ginamarie - have you read this?
https://bpdfamily.com/content/surviving-break-when-your-partner-has-borderline-personality What helped me get through was NOT being reactive. Leaving the room when he was dysregulating, leaving the house if need be. Do NOT engage if at all possible. Be boring, say things like "I'm just so confused". And then make your plans to leave or to stay and deal with the extinction bursts. More information on those here: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=85479.0 Wishing you the best. |